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From: Saddnes
Date: 2 June 1998

with time 
comes life
with an hour glass stream of sand
the time will not last

to be so soon is not so good
but the sand will act like it could
go forever and ever 
seeming never to stop

until finaly
your age has reached the top
to go no further
only to stop

not young not old 
just in between
not rich not poor
no house no car 
what a shame

to have gone
but, not so far
not much time 
to attend the class
and with out notice
 the last grain of sand hit the glass

From: Nick D  tpdinh@ucsd.edu
Date: 3 June 1998

To Lisa

"Rare Review" is a fine piece.  It communicates well the
hidden message.  I loved it.  Keep writing.

From: Snow Leopard    leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 3 June 1998

Hey Heather.  Nice poems, long, but still pretty good.

      § Live and Love §

From: Janelle morningstar43@hotmail.com
Date: 4 June 1998

Hey Saddness,

I really like your poem.  Do u have a lot of poems on heart break?  

- Janelle

From: Snow Leopard   leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 4 June 1998

Hey Saddness,

    That was a great poem.  I don't know if anyone has
told you but those need to be put in the submissions page,
heart and sleve corner.  Good poem, keep writing, later.

       § Snow  Leopard §
      § Live  and  Love §

From: mknapp@advacom.com
Date: 4 June 1998

I would like to send you a poem to review. Please advise
how I may send one to you. mknapp@advacom.com
Thank You!

From: Eve
Date: 4 June 1998

My words flow threw me,
written as they are felt.
Imperfect in many ways.
But some how are meant to exsit this way.

In essence, they are
the link of my emotional being:
my soul to my heart,
my heart to my mind.

Trying to make each feeling
emotional recognizable...
yes...that imperfect

From: Elaine Loraine d'Orgain
Date: 4 June 1998


I have received a number of questions about Lancelot and
Elaine.  It would be easier to direct those of you who
want to know more about the story to some sources. So, 
here are some for a start:
Lady of Shalott by Tennyson
gopher://ftp.std.com:70/oo/obi/book/Tennyson/Lady.of.
Shalott
or, see: The Lady of Shalott and click on "here" for
Tennyson's poem.
also, more Lancelot information from Lancelot in Prose
http://www.xs4all.nl/~iman66/prose.html
and a Waterhouse painting of Elaine ("I am half sick of
shadows"...said the Lady of Shalott)
http://www.angelfire.com/al/lancelot66/images/waterh1.jpg
there is more about the Maidens of Death (poor gals unlucky
in love) on this site: The Pre-Raphaelite Collection
http://webmagick.co.uk/prcoll/
this should give a number of you real romantics some great
fodder or classical images for writing after you see these websites.

From: Elaine Loraine d'Orgain
Date: 4 June 1998

Hey Guys,

Hold off with the e-mail!  This Elaine is okay...Elaine,
the lady of Shalott is a character...remember my earlier
explanations about characters?.....lol

There are more selections by Elaine Loraine that have
been in The Love Blender.  Access them here:
http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Cafe/1250/elaine.html

From: saddnes
Date: 4 June 1998

jannelle and snow leapord
thank you for your complements.
i do indeed appreciate.
to answer questions no i don't have alot of poems on 
heart break. Infact I have no poem i write from the heart
 and don't even write them down or copy this is an original
and in a matter of day's will go back into the cosmos where
it came from. I have not submitted any poem and if I'm not 
suppose to write them here I'm trully sorry and It won't 
happen again. Again thank you for the complement's.

yours trully
saddnes

From: Saddnes
Date: 4 June 1998

Joy to be
or not to be
what is the question

with a stroke of the clock
the time will then pass
your heart beating faster
imangineing lying on grass

with no restraints 
no oppointments
joy has finally come
as freedom it does
act as an ointment

to be free is the real joy
to live life to the fullest
this is everyone's plan
so the day's go on 
with us free, roaming the land

From: Snow Leopard    leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 4 June 1998

Saddness,

   Don't worry about submitting poems on the submission page
I ain't the keeper.  I'm just advising.  You can write you
poems on here all you want.  Poems are like memories.  Some
are worth remembering, and some are easily lost, free to
drift in the "cosmos".  Keep writing.  Write down you poems
more.  Because people like me like reading them.  Later

         § Snow  Leopard §
        § Live  and  Love §

From: saddnes
Date: 4 June 1998

Dear Snow Leopord,
     Domo, I haven't been writing long and am not proffesional 
by any means. However when I recieve letters of encouragement 
like yours and janelles it makes me want to write more. 
Thank you
saddnes

From: Eve
Date: 4 June 1998

Kirk,

just read Yee and Lan.
Sweet very sweet!!

ps. checked out alien bill site!
    have to get Mo's page up and running!

From: Saddnes
Date: 5 June 1998

                                  Thought's
    To say the world is perfect would be a lie.
However we do have to live here at least for now.
Why can't we elect politicians that would not lie, or sell
his/her constinuants out for personal intrest to lobbiest or 
large corp.? The joke of the day. A canidate running for 
LT. Govener in Ca. is running an add on t.v. and in it
he addresses thing's he has done and the resons for 
these actions he has taken admittingly started from 
financial and mental burden to his family ie:cost of college
tution, crowded class rooms ect.. 

From: Snow Leopard   leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 5 June 1998

Saddness,

     Domo arigato gozimus, misspelled.  I don't really understand 
the meaning of your little story?  Can you please tell me what it 
means?  Well I gotta go.  Later.

       § Snow  Leopard §
      § Live  and  Love §

From: Rennie Lorca
Date: 5 June 1998

Dear Kirk,

Thank you again for posting me on your front page this 
month.

Hope ... Please post your URL again to access your 
beautiful pages of poetry.

From: malkmar@aol.com
Date: 5 June 1998

there are 2 poets that i have been digging and looking for.
where are you  #1) carlos  and #2) z?

come out, i want to read more of your depth!

thanks
ms.m

From: msj (msj@tamu.edu)
Date: 5 June 1998

hi kirk and blender-readers!

i was so excited to see "smoke" on the front page of the 
blender this month!  thank you for recognizing my poem,
kirk, and i hope everyone enjoys it.  here's to a great
romantic poetry site on the web--we all know we love it!

melissa

From: Saddnes
Date: 5 June 1998

 Dear Snow Leopard,

       I was just venting . I picked a couple inperfections 
in the ca. gov. and wanted to show (my belief) the errors of
thier ways. would you vote for me just intrested to see a re-
sponse on what the sensus would be if someone was to run under
that campaign" busting politicians involved in
illegal activity" ie; fund raising , lobbiest pay off's ect....
Didn't mean to much by it just writing down my thoughts.
Sorry if it offended anyone.
Saddnes

From: z
Date: 5 June 1998

ms.m,

Is that you "mals"?  Hi there!  I've been around, mostly
reading the Blender.  Only recently have I had time to
start writing again, in this month's Blender and the Blender
Corner.  Lots of good reading recently... hehehe ;)  

Hope all's well with you and the rest of the Blenderites,
I'm looking forward to more good reading and hopefully will 
send in some of my own too.

Take care!

From: Eve
Date: 6 June 1998

Heather,

Just finished reading "Blessed", favorite line 'blessed by God, 
and Wayne' What a sweet way to remember the impact!
Enjoyed "Dear Heart, Be Still", and "Doubt"...The honesty 
in your writing is refreshing! Look foward to
reading more :)

From: Eve
Date: 6 June 1998

Tru,

You've done it again!! :)
'Albatross', excellent piece!!!!

Date: 6 June 1998

Only a portion of my title appears.....leaving out the 
true meaning of the work.  The title is Two Promises 
Too Late (meaning an love affair between two married persons)

Rebecca Frost LCXD73A

From: Nick tpdinh@ucsd.edu
Date: 7 June 1998

Dear Saddness,

Reading your little story has made me..well..indeed very sad.  
Are you trying to say that if you put a whole lots of 
wrong decisions, you get the right decision.  What about
moral value and human compassion in this case?  

You mentioned that your EX-boyfriend is hispanic; therefore,
it automatically made you not prejudiced.  Well, most people
don't really know that they are prejudiced.  If you put a 
group of white southern people together, well, what do you
get? a non-prejudiced group.  The point is that, sometimes,
your ideas are confined within your little "group", and you
lost your individuality.  

My advice to you is to be stand out, unique.  Think 
differently.  Don't follow a group's decision just because
you think..oh, it's a "group" decision.  It must be right.
This kind of thinking has appeared a lot in the scientific
world.  And believe me, it DOES a lot of damage.

Best wishes,

Nick

From: Saddnes
Date: 7 June 1998

Dear Nick,

       I believe you miss understood what i was trying to say.
First of all I'm not a girl i'm very much a man. Second, 
human compassion i have and declared in my short letter.
However I don't believe politicians have a right to feed 
clothe or treat ailments for illeagal's prior to taking care of
true americans first that have the same problems. 

From: Odd Nelsonson
Date: 7 June 1998

   Glad you're here! 
 My seclusion was unbearable tonight . I've left some 
words . I left my diary at the pub accidentaly so I'm glad
to relieve my burden on this page .
   Thanks
     -Odd (pronounced -ood) 
 

From: Ericf@redshift.com
Date: 7 June 1998

Janelle,

      I hope you have never felt the pain as you described
in "last night" unfortunately I'm affraid you have. My heart 
pours sorrow for you. I too have felt that pain.

trully,
Eric F.

From: Eve
Date: 8 June 1998

Rebecca,

Please re-submit 'Two Promises'
I'd love to see it! It does not come up at all!
                                  thx

From: Eve
Date: 8 June 1998

Dear Odd,

"I'd die!" Did you find your journal?
I pray so!! Such personal thoughts 
exposed! It would drive me insane!
Your 'left some words'....
hope a kind heart finds them :)

From: TruLeigh
Date: 9 June 1998

Dear Eve,

Thanks! ... again.

From: heather   dreamheather@hotmail.com
Date: 10 June 1998

Dear z,
  waiting with much love for your writing. 
I have enjoyed all of it so much. Heartfelt 
writing, I believe is the best.
Heather  

From: L.Penny, villians@hotmail.com
Date: 11 June 1998

LoveBlender Readers, Writers, etc.  :

I was wondering how eveyone out there would 
define "a romantic" ?  I love to hear from you!

L.

From: L.Penny, villians@hotmail.com
Date: 11 June 1998

Brenda-

"One Last Kiss" was great.  It's nice 
to have that chance to end this sweetly, 
the way they began.

L.Penny

From: TruLeigh
Date: 11 June 1998

Dear L. Penny,

My characters generate from at least a hundred years ago.
Rennie Lorca, Elaine Loraine d'Orgain, AnnLeigh Claire
McGregor, and Gib McRae Cairn started out as romantics.
Make it easy for you here: http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/
Cafe/1250/dragoncairn.html
I also like the Pre-Raphaelite period.  This was a very
short time in history, if you have studied anything about
it.  I am also an artist.  You will see that many of these
artists were also poets during that time.

There is a site about Romanticism:
http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Oracle/7259/romanticism.
html
and, VoS English Literature: Romantics
http://humanities.ucsb.edu/shuttle/eng-rom.html
Hope these help in your quest.......Yours truly, TruLeigh

Date: 12 June 1998

How did thing's get so boring around here ? 
It's like a ghost town. What 2-3 comments a day. 
olly sad sad very sad

From: Nick tpdinh@ucsd.edu
Date: 12 June 1998

It's indeed awfully quiet around here lately.  People,
it's summer.  Birds are singing.  The sun is shining.
Get in the mood.  Ready for summer.

Let your creativity flow.  Write some poems people.
Where is Tony K?  Write some poem, Tony.  Commanding your 
language.  Where's Jenny? 

Where are all our poets?  

From: Eve
Date: 12 June 1998

Nick,

Was thinking the same thing?
But, think about it...its summer!!
Everyone is out, experiencing life.
The "soul" of the poems they write.
They'll be back!! :)

I miss the works of Tony K and Misty!!

TONY!!!! U OK?? keep the faith! :)

From: Tony K.
Date: 12 June 1998

Hey, hey!
I'm here. My life's in a whirlwind at the moment so I 
haven't a spare moment to submit anything (SORRY!).  But I
haven't strayed too far.  I still check in to see what's
going on.  As soon as the dust settles, I'll start up again.
As for everyone else....it's probably just the summer fever.
The days are longer, the weather is great, everyone is
outdoors living life!

From: Rennie
Date: 13 June 1998

Yes, Saddness, it it true sadness when lovers or any
people cannot come together in thought and caring.

From: Janelle
Date: 13 June 1998

Dear Eric, 
I'm sorry that u felt the pain that I have felt.  
I haven't been on the net for awhile coz I've 
been trying to sort out my feelings.  They say 
time will heal all wounds but time will never 
get rid of the scars.  

Tony,
I truly hope that you have settled everything.  
Don't look back now.  The luggages of the past 
are 2 heavy to carry.. right?  I'll talk to 
yah later.

-Janelle

From: Eric Foster AKA Sadness
Date: 15 June 1998

Hello Everyone,
      It's time for me to go now so I have to say good-bye.
So good-bye love ya all and will miss the page.
I'll miss TK janelle and snow leopard most but will miss
the comments of all.
C-YA
Eric Foster A.K.A. Sadness

From: Sotto Voce {sotto_voce@iname.com}
Date: 15 June 1998

Tony K.,

I read somewhere that the "majority" of your poems were
composed for Misty.  Which pieces were not?

Sotto Voce

From: Janelle
Date: 15 June 1998

WE'll miss u too Eric.  

Tony,

I hope you're doing fine and that you'll be able to move on soon.

-Janelle

From: Eve
Date: 15 June 1998

Dear z,

untitled...'solitary confinement'
...it is what it is...what we believe...

From: Janelle
Date: 15 June 1998

Dear Snow,

I think u're a really talented writer.  Keep on writing!  
Everyone have fun this summer!! 
I know I will!  

Tony,
Be strong.  I know you'll get through this.  

-Janelle

From: z
Date: 15 June 1998

Eve,

Your comment.. "it is what it is... what we believe,"
is quite ambiguous. ;)  What is your interpretation
of that poem?  

I return back to my poem and my thoughts turn to the
word "sanctuary".  Hmmm...

From: innocent rose
Date: 16 June 1998

Hey, everyone.  I've been here for a while, just watching
the page mature, and enjoyed every minute of it.  I finally
got up the guts to submit something...and I was wondering if
any of you would mind giving me some feedback on the work.  
I'd really appreciate it.  I love to write, but everything I 
write is so personal, it's hard to display it to people 
around me.  Thanks so much for your time and the inspiration 
of everyone who's taken the time to post their works.  I 
enjoy them, and some of the prose writers I think are 
extremely talented (no, I'm not talking about myself.  
I know I'm not that great.  :)  Take care, and I'll be around.
innocent rose

From: Snow Leopard  leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 16 June 1998

hey all.

Farewell saddness, may all your roads be strait and fair.

I just got back on line.  I'm at a summer camp and it is 
getting hard to get on the computer.  

Thanks Janelle.  Your poetry is cool.  Keep it up.

Words are the key to the world.  Live and Love

    § Snow Leopard § 

From: Janelle
Date: 16 June 1998

Dear snow,

I think your poetry is really "cool" 2.  U really have 
a way with words.  How's the camp?  Don't overdo it, eh?  
Relax a bit.  It's summer!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Have fun.  

Have a great summer everyone!

From: Janelle
Date: 16 June 1998

Dear innocent rose,

I like Awakening.  I especially liked the part where 
u mentioned that he had little codes for you.  
Like a turtle meant something..etc.  It's long but cute.  

Tony,

where r you?  Hope things are finally getting better.  
I know we all miss your poems!

Janelle

From: Snow Leopard   leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 16 June 1998

Janelle.  
    The camp is great, sort of.  I have to go to classes 
and in each class I have to write write write.  That isn't 
so bad it's just that I also have to read about 100 pages 
a day out of books.  It's fun though.  Later

Innocent Rose.
    Good job.  Keep up the writing.  No one here will say your 
work sucks.  And if they do, that's their opinion.  Beauty is in 
the eye of the beholder.  Later

   § Live and Love §

From: A DISPLACED FRIEND
Date: 16 June 1998

Tony K,

This may be difficult for you to read, but it's the truth.
Throughout time and space you will always be alone.  Your
vain heart has no room for others.  You are madly in love
only with yourself.  Your friends are not displaced by "time
and distance" -- they simply can't stand to be near you.
Why not?

You waste your days working so hard to gain the approval and
admiration of others.  We are tired of your needless
bragging.  We don't care about the kind of car you drive,
the size of your wallet, the house you bought, or the
promotion you got.  We are embarrassed to listen to you
carry on about how young, healthy, and good looking you are.
We know you're not saying these things to us -- you're
saying them to yourself.  You prattle just to hear your own
voice.

We know the truth.  You have a frail build -- not much
muscle nor flesh.  You are very self-conscious about your
lack of height and you obsess about proving that women are
attracted to you.  You drive down the street with the dome
light on in your car just to make sure people can see you.
You dance like you're having some sort of fit just to make
sure people watch you.  You take pictures of yourself and
post them anywhere you think people might be able to admire
them.  In short (no pun intended), you work so hard to build
yourself up in other people's eyes.  It's too much.  We can
only look at you shamefully and walk away.

Some of your poetry is beautiful.  At least I can say you
have a gift with words.  Unfortunately, your tongue is
deceptive.  Much of your poetry is filled with vain efforts
to impress us.  A sample:

Missed Connections: "I sighed and slipped a ten under a
                     glass on the table."

Without You: "The boss is happy because I accomplished much"
             "I got a promotion and a raise"
             "I'm young, healthy, and not bad looking"
             "My career looks bright and successful"

Whatever It Takes: "I got you a cat."
                   "I got you another one."
                   "I got you a car."
                   "I bought the large house."
                   "I bought the fancy furniture."

And that's just a sample.  Look back at your past and think
about what you have now.  Nothing.  Yes, you're manipulative
(and I can see you grinning now).  Yes, you play games.  No,
you were never in control.  You've now exhausted any
substantial friends you could have had.  The friends you
have now laugh behind your back.

You boast about the women you seduced and tossed aside.
Each of them, in succession, have found themselves tangled
up in your lies and games.  Each of them knew that you were
cheating but looked away.  Misty did the same.  You treated
her no differently than anyone else.  Why should she believe
that you truly care about her?  You've written poetry
before.  You've held midnight vigils before.  You've shed
fake tears before.  You've professed your love shamelessly
before.  But this time you're sincere?  She's looked away
too many times already and I hope she's learned her lesson. 
She is not your lesson -- you are her lesson.  You still
live only for yourself.

If you're not sincere then why are you doing this?  You are
playing out such a drama, not because your heart is broken,
but because you cannot bear to lose another possession.
That's all Misty is to you.  Each new friend or lover you
acquire will soon find that they are cast aside while you
move on to gain another.  Misty, if you're reading, keep
walking.  Your mind will find a new peace that you have been
struggling to find for six long years.  There are better
friends and lovers out there for you.  It looks like you've
already found one of them  ;-)

Tony, you didn't leave your friends behind for her.  We left
you behind and it had nothing to do with her.  You are an
outcast.  There's so much more I could say to you.  Maybe
you'll truly get it someday.

From: Pissed Off E-Daddy
Date: 16 June 1998

To Whomever,

       Man/Woman, Im about sick of your Sh!T. If you don't want 
to be friend's w/ tony than FINE,but shut your hole.
You obviously aren't from monterey cause that is where 
tony's TRUE FRIENDS are, and if you are than I know
precisely who this is and don't plan on going out for a 
while cause you are bound to run into some serious cholo
hina's I know from Watsonville that are gonna love to meet 
you(how's shannon). 
       Second, obviously you don't know misty to well but 
you stick up for her like you do. The fact is, is that it was 
tony who had to put up with her Sh!t. talking all sort's of mess 
about tony tryin to be cool to fit in w/ jesse,ivan,eric,damon 
and others, but it didn't work we were respectful cause it
was tony's woman but we all new the truth about her. She
was and probably still is a gold diggin hoe. Obviously she
has no morals cause even the other guy said he had to 
turn away her numerous advances while still sleeping w/ tony 
and probably still telling him she loved him( or in her world 
do two wrong's make a right?). 
 However you look at it you don't like him and he 
probably doesn't like you iether,
So why don't you save your breath and quit talking mess
that's how people get hurt(you push and push and then 
end up getting jacked by someone like me) I'll be in Atlanta
in four day's and I've warned you before. Those day's are 
over when I get there we're going toe to toe and you aint
gonna be happy. Your a b@#@$% and the game end's 
here I'll friggin erase you all. wanna play fine let the 
games begin I'm friggin sick of it and it's over. Think about 
that for a few day's.

From: Tony K. (tny@ix.netcom.com)
Date: 17 June 1998

WOW. Such an effort put forth by "Displaced Friend" to
slander me.

FIRST: I just want to apologize to Kirk and others at the 
blender.  I was just posting a few poems and never meant
for the "drama" to stalk me here.  Honestly....this is 
exactly the reason why I have quite posting (for those who
have asked).

SECOND: One more time. I know I probably shouldn't lower
myself to respond, but maybe this will be the LAST time.

As for "Displaced Friend".  I know who you are.
But I won't name you or slander you or backstab you.
You were never my friend, though to this day you pretend
to be.  That was a good bit of slander you wrote, however
you probably lost the more intelligent crowd when you
reduced it to taking cheap shots at me.  I am impressed by
how you used my own words out of context against me.  You
were even daring enough to write all of that garbage as if
it was the shared view of all my friends.  I find it kinda
funny.  Who were you trying to convince?  Strangers here 
at the blender? My friends know the truth (of which I have
plenty, old and new).

You make all sorts of points.  A few maybe valid.  Most are
laughably vain attempts at slandering me (especially to
 those who know better).  However, you do make one very
important, yet very incorrect statement:
"...why are you doing this?  You are playing out such a
drama..."

And to that I will respond.  Doing what?  I posted a few
poems to a few strangers.  Read them again.  I didn't 
attack or slander anyone.  Now read through the blender 
comments of the past two months.  Who really brought the
drama?  Who is really trying to be hurtful?  Who will not
leave who alone?  It is so obvious who is playing out such 
a drama.  It is obvious who is playing games.  Do you
realize how silly all this is?

NOW:  I've said it numerous times.  It's over.  Let it die.
Don't post slander about me on bulletin boards where people
don't care to see it.  Don't call me up.  Don't talk to me.
I don't want to hear it. Don't go to my friends. They don't
want to hear it either.

Misty, "Cookiedough", and even "Displaced Friend".  Do us
all a favor.  Get out of my life and leave me alone.  Enough
damage has been done and nobody wants to see this garbage
here.

From: Eric F
Date: 17 June 1998

A-men

     Did you all hear that can we drop it now? I suggest so!

From: Janelle
Date: 17 June 1998

Tony,

These people are garbage.  I'm glad it's all over and 
that you've moved on.  He shouldn't even b posting his $h1T on
the net coz that's private.  

Eric,

Amen 2.

Janelle 

From: Atlanta Witness
Date: 17 June 1998

I've sat by and seen plenty without saying a word.  
Sorry, this time I can not just sit by and watch this.
I just have to put my 2 cents in. I met Tony and Misty
at the same time and was unbiased at the start.  I have to
say that Tony has shown an unbelievable amount of class and
character, despite the incredible amount of crap that she
and "cookiedough" have caused.  Tony has gained the friend-
ship and respect of many here in Atlanta and I just want
him to know that.  The only "outcasts" I see are Misty and
her new sugar daddy, "cookiedough".  The only people getting
laughed at are those two.  I think those two are probably
regretful and hurting now because of it and so they are 
just trying to make themselves feel better by trying to 
lash out at Tony.  How childish!  But that is what we've
come to know and expect from Misty and "cookiedough".

Tony, you are right.  We have seen FIRST HAND what has been 
said and done here in Atlanta.  We're glad you got rid of
her.  The sooner she and "cookiedough" are completely packed
up and gone, the better! 

From: Eric F
Date: 17 June 1998

HAH AHHH AHHHAHHHHHAHAHHAHHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHA
A-MEN,but please don't let them come to Monterey. I won't
be here but there are isn't room for anymore idiots here.
STILL LOL hahahhahahhahhhahhahahhaha

From: Snow Leopard  leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 17 June 1998

Tony,
    There is no way to measure the worth of a person, 
but if there was you would probably be at the top, 
well maybe at the upper middle :)  You are one of the best 
authors I've met, or not met (it kind of gets sketchy when 
all I've talked to you is through messages.)  You've got 
some skills.
Keep up your writing.  And remember, even in a whirlwind 
there is a calm space in the middle.  
Good luck and best wishes.  Keep in touch.

Dear "Friend"
   You probably don't know me and I probably don't know you. 
I don't have anything against you and I think each person is 
entitled to their own opinion.  Something I don't approve of, 
as if anyone needs my approval for anything, is writing a nice 
long essay critisising a good author.  It would be fine is you 
took it up personally with him over email or got together somewhere 
to talk it over if Geography permits.  I just don't think 
it is considerate to other blender surfers, let alone Tony, 
to write slander and, I don't want to say hate because I don't 
think it is that, spite is a good word, on a page dedicated to 
love and romance.  I'm sorry to all the people out there who 
I offended and I appologize.  
   

From: Snow Leopard  leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 17 June 1998

Sorry all for the line length.  This computer word wraps this page 
so I get each comment a different length each time.  Later.

     § Live and Love §

From: The Recipe
Date: 17 June 1998

Get up!
Get out!
Get understanding!
Get happy!
Get Love!
It is just that easy!

Date: 17 June 1998

For those of you who cannot follow a recipe...make that
"The Directions"
or
"The Orders"
........lol

From: Janelle
Date: 17 June 1998

Atlanta Witness,

I'm giving props to you!  Yeah! Yeah! 


Whoever these people r, I hope you guys get a life soon 
and stop stalking Tony!
He's moving on and maybe you should too.

Lates!

From: dreamheather
Date: 17 June 1998

all you people need a life....
GET ONE...

From: Snow Leopard  leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 18 June 1998

I need help.  I'm in my first long-distant relationship and
I would like any help anyone can give to help me make it
work.  Well I'll talk to you later.  

     § Snow Leopard §

From: Sotto Voce {sotto_voce@iname.com}
Date: 18 June 1998

Snow Leopard,

I've been-there/done-that more than once.  I have been in
a long-distance relationship that didn't work, and one that
did.  What exactly do you need help with?

You can E-mail me privately if preferred.

Sotto Voce

From: Let Me Be "Frank"
Date: 18 June 1998

Tony K.,

    your head is so large
    your body so small
    both in character and stature
    you are not tall

HYA HYA!

From: innocent bystander
Date: 18 June 1998

this tony k saga has gotten out of hand. 
tony, i realize you are trying to put a stop to 
this, but please, everyone... the soap
opera of  someone's 
private life seems like an awfully inappropriate
thing to be battling out on a public bulletin board. 
please, take it somewhere else and leave the 
blenderboard for what it was intended --
comments pertaining directly to material in the
blender not an opportunity to stand up on 
a soapbox and cheer for the side in the 
tony saga that you 
want to win or vent your political views. 

many thanks.

From: crickettt@hotmail.com
Date: 18 June 1998

Innocent Bystander:

thank you ......   :  )

I get the feeling that you have a flair for words .....  
please post something ... I'm curious.

From: crickettt@hotmail.com
Date: 18 June 1998

"opening a bags of fresh carmels ...and
popping one in my mouth ... I let the sticky 
sweetness surround my my taste buds ...
and smile" 

carmels huh? .... excellent piece!

From: Janelle 
Date: 18 June 1998

Dear "Frank",

How pathetic!  Now that little poem just shows that 
you have no life coz you're wasting your time thinking 
about absurd  poems for Tony.  Get a life.  And while 
you're at it get a brain too.  If you share a brain with 
the other losers that post propesterous garbage about Tony, 
I suggest you get a brain that works!  
Why can't you settle this with him?  What's the point?  
Tony's not gonna get hurt with your foolishness.  
I bet right now he's laughing at your immaturity!
I suggest you find better things to do with your time 
and give Tony his peace.  God knows he deserves it after all the 
mess you've put him thru.  
I don't know much about this little saga of yours 
but I do know that it's time to move on.  It's over.  
Tony's moving on and maybe you should too.

I-ight?  Lates!

From: Sotto Voce  {sotto_voce@iname.com}
Date: 18 June 1998

Hi Snow Leopard,

I don't like to throw my opinions up on the board blindly,
but decided that it might be helpful to you if I posted a 
few things I found useful in making my long-distance
relationship work:

ASSUMPTION: You already have a good foundation for a
            relationship and the only thing burdening it is
            the distance between you two.  I make this
            assumption because there are lots of other
            factors that make relationships fail, even if
            they're not long-distance ones: lack of trust,
            jealousy, etc.  These can be heightened when you
            don't see each other regularly.

1. Set goals

   They can be small or large, but since you don't see each
   other you need something to look forward to.  A small
   goal might be to see each other for a weekend next month,
   or to call each other at least weekly.  A large goal
   might be to ultimately be together sometime in the future
   (living in the same area).  You two agree on some goals
   that will keep you both motivated.

   It seems simple but it makes a big difference in how
   stable your mood is.  If there is nothing to look forward
   to and you haven't heard from the other person in a
   while, you start to lose motivation and feel a bit
   hopeless.  On the other hand, if you know you'll talk in
   two days you are less likely to worry that the other
   person has forgotten about you.

2. Communicate frequently

   I know phone bills can skyrocket, but it's important to
   hear each other's voice regularly.  It's so easy to let
   the distance turn into silence also.  And if you can't
   talk on the phone, write each other cards or love letters
   (maybe send some of your peotry).
   
   My own personal opinion is that shorter, more frequent
   calls help you two to feel like you are very in-touch
   with each other's lives.

3. Do lots of little things

   You have to do more thoughtful, special things because
   you're not there in-person to show the other person how
   much you care.  You can do things like send electronic
   postcards, record cassette tapes of your favorite
   romantic music and send them to each other, leave
   surprise "I'm thinking about you" messages on each
   other's answering machines, send each other trinkets,
   etc.

I'm not an expert so, please, no one jump all over me about
sounding like I think I am.  I just want to share my own
experiences on what made my long-distance relationship work
(we're still together, although no longer separated).  Maybe
they can help Snow Leopard in some way.

I've also failed at more than one long-distance relationship
(three of them, actually).  So I might be able to share what
went wrong (lack of communication, lack of trust, distance
turns into silence, and much MUCH more).

Sotto Voce

From: Snow Leopard   leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 19 June 1998

Thank you Sotto.  

I got a question for everyone....How many people out there
have been in longdistant relationships?

    § Snow Leopard §

Date: 19 June 1998

Snow Leopard-

I have been in 2 long distance relationships.  Both
of which lasted for over a year.  Then unfortunately
we broke up but we still remain friends.  

-Jenna

From: Eric F
Date: 19 June 1998

Dear snow Leopard,
    I.ve been in a couple and it doesn't work to well
to often. Especially if your partner has a high sex drive.
Human nature dictates that if there is an obsticale
(no sex do to long distance) in your path then you'll event-
ually overcome and guy'[s are the worst. They'll normally
try to get away with thing's that they shouldn't be doing
on the basis that it is long distance. Sorry the truth. If you
are not sexually active w/ him then you probablly don't
have enough time in the relationship to even be thinking 
about a long distance relationship. If you are then I 
would suggest alot of :0 phone sex. Sorry to be so blunt
but sex is normally the hole in wich people in these 
situations fall victim to " hormones". Best wishes and 
lot's of luck I really do hope it work's out for you.
Friend's 
Eric F

From: janelle
Date: 19 June 1998

Dear snow,

All I can say is that u need trust in your relationship.  
If u don't trust her then the relationship can't work.

Think if it this way.  Love is like a chair. The legs 
represent trust, communication, honesty, and loyalty.
If one of the legs is destroyed then the chair is no more.  

Just follow you heart and if it leads to her then great.  
But if it doesn't then you have to take another path.

Janelle

From: Snow Leopard  leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 20 June 1998

Thanx Eric and Janelle.
    Eric.  Neither of us has an overactive sex drive 
so I think that we're fine in that part.  Thanks for your wishes.
    Janelle.  I have all of those things you named, 
at least I think I do.  I just hope that my path leads to 
her.  I don't like the Idea of having to find another chair :)

  § Live and Love §

From: Eve
Date: 21 June 1998

Z,


I see the meaning of your 'sanctuary'
but I see this as well...

'solitary confinement'
it is what it is...what we believe'

Your words say to me, you wish to be
absorbed by this love 'your sanctuary'
totally...but...

blinded by kisses, not wishing to see
that trust does not follow, not wishing 
to see the relavance of 'trust to love'
bask in the bliss of ignorance...

Perhaps a kind of sanctuary with 
certain personal walls/barriers drawn
(solitary) to what you wish to see and
feel. Not recognizing all of the feelings.
(confinement)

Taking from this love, things you need...
'sanctuary'....
But not wishing to deal with the rest...
'the trust, does not follow'...

Building in my eyes ...Z...
your own 'Solitary Confinement'

Z, its only my interpretation...
I think we all veiw things differently.
All in our own way... 

I enjoy your writting...very much!
sorry, it took so long to get back to you :)

From: innocent bystander aka alison
Date: 21 June 1998

crickett --
thanks, i've posted lots of stuff in past months. 
(check out the first few months of this year on the 
front page and in the heart on sleeve corner)
unfortunately lately i haven't been especially inspired 
to write material appropriate for this site. 
so i just stick to being a fanatical reader ! 

From: Janelle
Date: 22 June 1998

Snow,

How's your girlfriend?  How's the camp?  
Just e-mail me when u have the time,k?

-Janelle

From: l.shields
Date: 22 June 1998

unless The Rape was a very strange metaphor, what's it got to do with love?

Date: 24 June 1998

i know this isn't really the place to seek therapy 
or advice, but i figured you all would probably have
the most helpful ideas. i just mutually broke up with 
my long term boyfriend and am quite upset
at myself for not being able to handle it very well 
and at the realization of the dependence i had on
him. nevertheless, what i am searching for is writing 
(be it novel, biography, poetry) by or about 
strong women. women who fight, who are independent, 
who make their own ways. i'm in need
of a role model right now. 
many thanks,
ruby

From: Janelle
Date: 24 June 1998

Dear Ruby,

I'm sorry about your boyfriend.  If you're looking 
for a role model just look at Sandra Bullock.  
I think she's strong and independent.  I also think 
Aaliyah is a good role model.   
I went through what you're going through right now.  
It's tough but the pain will ease.  How long were guys together?
Take your time..k?  Getting over someone is never easy.  
I have a friend like you.  When she broke up with her man , 
she didn't know what to do.  He's been in her life for 
so long that she didn't know how to live without him.  
She walked around in a daze for awhile but she learned 
that life does go on.  You can't live in the past forever.  
Like I always say.. The luggages of the past are 2 heavy to carry.
When you love someone set them free and if they come back it's meant to be.
Keep your head up and try to smile.  Be strong like Sandra and Aaliyah..
Lates!

From: Snow Leoaprd  leopard99@hotmail.com
Date: 24 June 1998

Ruby,

   I don't know any good women role models that you can
use, sorry.  I'm not real good with advice, so here's a
little idea.  One of my friends is caught in a real love
problem so she has decided to live by one philosophy.
All men are assholes.  Me personally, being male, doesn't
agree with it.  But it makes her feel better.  I don't know 
if it will work with you but it might help you out.  Later
   § Live and Love §

   Janelle,
  What's up?  I havn't heard from you in a long time
Well I'll talk to you later.  

  Everyone,
    Thanx for all your support and advice you've given me.
Thank you all.
§ Snow Leopard §
  

From: innocent rose
Date: 25 June 1998

Thanks for those of you who commented on the story...
sorry about the length.  As to role models...I'm not sure I
can help you there, but you might want to just go for the
spend time with your friends....
alot of the time in my experience, guys who are your friends
turn into the men you love when you least expect it...
I say, cultivate friendships.  The best boyfriends are friends
first.  :)  Know what I mean?  Anyways, I don't think the all
men are jerks things will work very well...that's just my
thought, but hey...  Anyways, just wanted to offer my 
suggestion.  Take care...and all of you who are regulars,
thanks for all the relevant comments.  I hope the irrelevant 
ones stop really soon.  Love to all, 
inncocent rose.  @--}--}---  <3

From: innocent rose
Date: 25 June 1998

Shoot...one more thing, ya'll.  Remember to hit return.
Even though it looks like it wraps...it doesn't.
:)  Take care, and have a great day.

From: Janelle
Date: 25 June 1998

Dear Innocent Rose,

I agree with yah.  All men aren't jerks.  Though I 
am scared of falling for a friend.  Right now I'm 
starting to have feelings for a close friend of mine.  
I'm scared of losing his friendship if we ever break up.  

Snow,
How r u?  Hope your relationship is doing just fine.  

Tony,
Wuz goin on with yah?  Haven't heard from you in awhile.  
Take care of yourself...K?

-Janelle

From: Eve (dee33eve@hotmail.com)
Date: 26 June 1998

z....
you there??
intersted in your thoughts
to my reply...

here or e mail...

From: Bren (easyb30@yahoo.com)
Date: 27 June 1998

Who are you, Lewis????

If you were to leave her poetry on her makeup table each
morning, would some of it be of your own creation
sometimes?

From: Janelle
Date: 27 June 1998

I'm just wondering where my buddies went.  How r u Snow, Eric, and Tony?
Hope u guys r fine.. Just e-mail me..k?

-Janelle

From: ruby
Date: 28 June 1998

thanks janelle, snowleopard, and innocent rose for your advice.
i suppose what i was really looking for was something i could 
read: prose and poetry can really affect my thinking and i was 
hoping to find something to alter my mood. 
any other suggestions would be appreciated...
ruby

From: erin   iamerin@hotmail.com
Date: 28 June 1998

please have more peices to go into the blendomatic

thanks

i love the peopms though they are great!!!!

From: Eve
Date: 29 June 1998

Chris Smith,

Enjoyed your works very much!
The passion in your words, reflects
your true heart and soul!! Excellent!!

Favorite line...from "Fire"
'The flame an array of blue,
but the light... a bright luminus red.
The heat reaches temperatures umbearable...to ecstacy"

Looking forward to more of your writting. :)

ps..."Without You"...whew!!!! loved it!!!

From: Eve
Date: 29 June 1998

Christine,

"Moment of Love"
truly touching...enjoyed it....:)

From: Eve
Date: 29 June 1998

Alison,

"Battle Cry"...Liked the images
you used to compare, your reactions
to the ivy...
...A spindly, leafy vine of ivy,
   sprouting siblings...
   (anger and bitterness)

From: EveNikki
Date: 29 June 1998

Nikki,

I just read resolve...."excellent"
last line :)..."I damn well intend to be one!"
You go girl :)!! You'll do just fine!!! :)

From: Eve
Date: 29 June 1998

To all Blender Poets,

I keep a file of all my favorites!!
Needless to say its 'huge'!!
I Enjoy this site soooo!! very much!!
Visit it daily!

THANKS KIRK!! :)

From: Eve
Date: 29 June 1998

OOPPSS!!

guess...cut and paste...wasn't
such a good idea...:(

scroll over for last lines...
                           thx...:)

From: Innocent Rose
Date: 29 June 1998

Janelle...
I think it depends on how strong your friendship is first.
If you're really strong friends, it shouldn't be a problem,
unless you have sex with him.  That tends to make it harder
to be friends afterward.  Just a thought.
I can't remember who asked about books to read...but if you
want some good women can do anything books...
I'd say try the Awakening and perhaps other Chopin books.
She's a Cajun girl and some of the stories are about love,
but even those tend to have a really strong woman. I thought
that might be what you're looking for.  Take care, if you have 
any more needs, feel free to post.  I loved the Awakening.
Also there are some Hurston novels that are very good.  You 
might try one of those.  Hope that helps.  Take care.
Innocent Rose.

From: Janelle
Date: 30 June 1998

Innocent Rose,

We are good friends and I don't think I want to ruin our 
relationship. Call me old fashioned but I want to wait for 
the man of my dreams to have sex... 
He's too good a friend to me and I don't know what I would 
do if he's not around to give me advice.  

I'm wondering where Snow , Tony and eric went.  WE miss you guys!  

-Janelle

From: Nikki
Date: 30 June 1998

Eve-
 Thank you very much for your compliments and words of
encouragement. It means so much to me.

  Nikki

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