The thing is, this is how Mo and I work. We have many things in common, but we also often get involved in solitary projects, from my work on the Blender to her recent furniture sanding fling, from my interest in all things Nintendo to the updates of her own website (http://protogeek.com). I think that these dichotomies are good things, that it's critical not to get in the way of the interests and hobbies of your romantic partner. Which isn't the same thing as disinterest in what the other person is doing- a certain level of interest sharing is critical- but not having to be present in every corner of your partner's life is ultimately rewarding for everyone.

I'm not sure if everyone agrees with this sentiment, or is even aware of it. Many people are looking for someone to share everything with. I remember realizing I would never be a permanent partner for this one romantic interest because, while not devoid of musical talent, I didn't share her passion for singing, and she couldn't visualize a life partner without that.

Mo and I are moving into a smaller space than the large house we currently share with five other people. It'll be interesting to see how this new geometry affects this independence dynamic, since now are computers (where much of the individual efforts take place) are in the same room. It's always funny how geography can change or romantic lives...