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By ~Harem~ Date: 2001 May 09 Comment on this Work [[2001.05.09.10.03.26281]] |
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It's been said that when two people get married They are tying the knot. Yet there is another type of knot to consider The LOVE KNOT. You know that knot you get in your stomach When he or she doesn't call. When you worry or wonder where they are. When you're not sure of how they feel about you. When you have doubts as to their faithfulness When you yearn for the emotional feedback That they rarely give. When you see them flirting with the opposite sex. When they don't return your call. or can't be reached by phone for long periods of time. When they become less attentive than usual When they avoid your kisses. When they have that far away look in their eyes When they are acting strange and distant. When they won't talk to you When they forget your birthday, or special days When they become callous to your needs When they become physically or emotionally unavailable. When they weren't where they said they'd be When they start cancelling dates When they stand you up. When they start acting selfish When they become withdrawn When you just don't feel safe with them When they look at you, as if you are invisible and they can stare right through to the other side When you notice lipstick on their collar Or a new perfume scent on their pillow. When they appear to be hiding information from you. When you see a strange phone number scratched on a cocktail napkin When , when, when So you get this knot Deep within your stomach in the pit..... And you interpret it to be LOVE Oh... you are SO MUCH in love... so deeply in love Head over heels in love. MADLY AND PASSIONATELY IN LOVE.... So MUCH in love that it hurts.... DEEP in your gut ... you have this big KNOT in your stomach. And as long as you can FEEL that KNOT... That uneasy, queasy feeling. You are sure that you are still Madly and passionately in love. The thrill is still there The challenge, the uncertainty, The KNOT THEN SUDDENLY ONE DAY - The KNOT is no longer there. ITS GONE ! ! ! You want to feel it .... You try to feel it... BUT YOU CAN'T ..... That wonderfully painful.... agonizing gut feeling. That uncomfortable knot is gone..... And why is it gone ? Because they no longer stay out late at night. Because they call you three times a day. Because you know where they are all the time now. Because they are paying you more attention. Lots and lots of kisses and hugs, now. Because they want to spend more time with you. Because they are putting you first in their lives now. Even before their own desires and needs. Because they no longer flirt with others. Because they are so dependable now. So eager to please you. Because they are showering you with gifts Because they are giving so much more than before. Longer Kisses Foot rubs, back rubs, long massages. Because they are making you the center of their world now. So.... that uneasy KNOT is GONE now. That gut squeeze - POOF - has magically DISAPPEARED The Challenge The unsureness ALL GONE ! ! ! So how does your brain and heart interpret this ? Bingo..... INTERPRETATION : IT'S OVER ! ! ! ! I am no longer in love....... I have fallen out of love....... That wonderful glorious KNOT is not there anymore.... A sure indication that the romance is gone.... it's OVER.... WRONG WRONG WRONG ! ! ! You got it all wrong. Our brains are off kilter.... Deranged... and significantly malfunctioning. Together, our brain and heart are seriously misleading us.... MISINTERPRETING - misunderstanding - just plain STUPID. We need to reprogram.... load a new data set..... upgrade..... NOW The knot was there, when they DIDN'T love us....... The knot disappeared , when they BEGAN to LOVE us..... Why is it so hard for us to understand that ? Did you ever stop to think That the knot is the very opposite of love Could it be that we are attracted to pain ? ? ? That we LOVE discomfort .... That we LOVE abuse .... That we LOVE only that which, we think is unattainable ?? The LOVE KNOT isn't really love at all...... But a LACK of love..... on the part of the person causing the KNOT. WAKE UP ..... ~ THE LOVE KNOT (NOT) ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ |