BOUNDARIES

What if I could assure you that love is the cure for all that ails us, mentally hurts us, scares us, even physically pains us? You say you've been hurt by love. No, you've been hurt by desire. Love won't fail you. It is out there for the right partners to claim. But you've set boundaries and limits from disappointments.

You might want to think of successful love in terms of body perfection, glowing radiance, dazzling couples and expensive possessions. But the really successful, happy, comfortable and even passionate love is in the desire for real time together. Time is a problem in relationships. We set time limits that our hearts won't accept. A mind understands the concept of time. A heart can be broken by it.

While hormones and peer pressure rage for us to find a passionate partner to satisfy desire, Love is also out there to be found. We search for body and mind combined so in tune that nothing shakes the feeling of togetherness, oneness, happiness. A real treasure hunt for something precious, so don't get sidetracked. But you haven't seen it for yourself, so you're a skeptic. So was I, so I understand. The rest of the world ran on schedules, so I believed Love had to do the same. It was a hard attitude to change.

For some, age and failing bodies may be the visible wrapper, but the inside is something hard to make the young, who haven't found their other half or soulmate, understand. Once you finally find that true other half, you realize you are never complete without that partner, nor are you ever really alone when they are gone.

My good fortune has been to be assured of love. Love has pulled me from the brink of dying, encouraged me to thrive, given me all I've felt I ever needed from it. Each day it gives me more.