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By Isabella Svenska Submitted by Isabella Svenska Date: 2004 Aug 30 Comment on this Work [[2004.08.30.20.26.31873]] |
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Being alone isn't terrifying or a living hell... or a term in your life you have to defend In most cases, it's freeing cathartic, refreshing and self-evolving But... Couples, whether married or just cohabitating always have this mannerism when they inquire about your constant "single status" and with this questioning technique comes the incorporation of the head-tilt while nodding and giving you those sad, hopeful eyes, almost like someone has died and they are consoling you. It goes something like this: Imagine the scene, dinner party, among close friends, perhaps just like a scene from Bridget Jones' Diary where you're seated with several couples and you're the token singleton THEM: So, are you seeing anyone special? ME: No. Not really. THEM: I wish I knew someone I could set you up with - but everyone I know is married or taken. ME: That's ok. I don't mind being single. THEM: (looking at you like you have two heads) You'll meet someone. ME: (Nods head - no verbal response) THEM:It always happens when you're not looking, you know. ME: Well, I'm actually not looking. I'm quite happy right now. THEM: Well, that's good. That means...you'll actually be ready when someone special comes along. (Grins hopefully and holds back hugging me) ME: Maybe. I'm alone. Not lonely. There is a difference. THEM: Oh, that's good. (Eyeing who else they can chat with and feeling uncomfortable that you're not wallowing in your own self-depricating pity party that they are hopeful they are discovering at that moment) ME: Will you please excuse me? I think I baffle all couples, who secretly envy me because they haven't mastered how to be alone. I think I make them question deep down why they settled. Sometimes, I think couples want to couple me up because they want me to be as miserable as they are...or maybe they just think it's their duty to sell me a membership. Honestly, I belonged to that club before and the dues didn't outweigh the benefits. |