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By Corinna Date: 2006 Jun 06 Comment on this Work [[2006.06.06.14.43.15597]] |
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How do we truly know who we are supposed to become? Where we are supposed to be? In episodes of Sex and The City Carrie said two things, "Can you get to your future if your past is present?" and "Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you are to become who you will be." So many of us, including myself, are afraid of change, whether it be a career change, the breakup w/ a significant other, a move or quitting a bad habit. We are all SCARED. We are scared of what the future holds, scared that we won't make it or things will be worse rather than better. When it comes to some relationships many couples are scared to share themselves, to open themselves up to new possibilities. They conform to their lifestyle that they are used to, as a single person and fear what will happen if they break free to become one with someone else. Is it fears from our past that cause our apprehension? Or fear that you won't be liked for who you truly are? Don't get me wrong, I don't believe that anybody should change for anybody else. Sometimes we need to let go of old habits and routines to truly discover where and with whom we are supposed to be. There are some relationships, that maybe ARE truly meant to be, but are ruined from fear, lack of self-confidence or resentment. If we don't take risks we will never experience the full extent of our being, of life itself. And this extends far beyond relationships, this relates to life in a whole. If you remain anchored to your past or even to your present self or experiences you will just remain idle in life. But if you gradually loosen the chain, I believe that we would be surprised at who we are and what we are capable of. Some of us don't know the extent of our abilities because we lack self confidence and drive and we are stuck in this comfort zone we've created for ourselves. We fear losing or that we aren't good enough. But I think that inside each of us, there is a whole other person that we didn't know existed. A being that we've kept chained inside because we are scared, naïve and anchored to our past and our present. Those who know me may say that I have no room to talk because I AM one of those people. I've always been so afraid of change or losing in all aspects of my life. A lot of that fear comes from my past. So maybe I have a lesson to be learned here too. But I've already begun to loosen the chains on my past to get to where I am today, but I guess now I need to release myself from my present comfort zone to find out who and where I am truly supposed to be. |