It never ceases to amaze me how difficult it is for two people to meet, fall in love, and then marry...not to mention--stay together forever. With the information superhighway, we've moved from meeting at school, church, somewhere in our community. Hey! you say, those "local choices" are too much like swimming in the kiddy pool today. So we swim with the sharks to find that mermaid or siren. We learn, firsthand, what the Cyllia and Charybdis really means. On with the quest!

People are like stars in that great big sky at night. Online, we may try to pick one to focus on and become friends, lovers and permanent partners under the covers. But how do we pick? Does this star shine brighter? Is it closer? Beyond the we, first person thinking. Will it twinkle when I want to see it twinkle? Am I looking in the right direction, or the right constellation in that huge night sky? Whoa! How's my own shine at this time?

We toss out online photos of real potentials like a deck of cards. Which hand to play? Which is our lucky card? Did we overlook that one best card in some previous hand, or deck? What a gamble we're trusting our future in here, we move to tarot--no? Well, we don't want to play Old Maids or Old Bachelor, do we? We focus on photos and see the wrong hair, the wrong body size, the wrong lingo and the wrong part of town, or the country, or another country. What do they see in us?

So I have an online friend of many years who's serious, he says, about finding a real mate. He's ready and willing to commit, and I believe him. However, I liked his first chat profile photo and profile information better than the new and improved version...but then, I'm female and think like one. He's totally male, and argues like one for the new profile. But I genuinely understand his frustration. I'm good at finding homes for kittens and puppies folks are too kind in leaving on my doorstep. So why not find a home for this guy! Yeah, right.

But then I remember what poignant little tidbits my darling said about the time he was alone and looking, and then found me....I digress.

And, this online friend IS new and improved as he's radically changed careers and genuinely working on himself. I know for certain that he's already intelligent and well-read. Kind to kids and animals--no joke. But what impressed me the most was what he wrote and shared with me a few years ago. It was the most poignant little love story I've read in a long time. NOW, IF I could only get him to share it with these little gals who aren't interested in his cut-and-dried profile information: the fact that he likes sci-fi, video gaming and his new iPod. It was that little story that made me realize some little gal's gonna be really happy with this guy ready to commit.

What better place to let someone know you looking for real love and serious entanglement than loveblender? Okay, okay, cut the snickering! You'd think I could talk him into writing here. Some of you know I'm pretty persuasive on that. But he's trying another direction. Where can the right gal find him? http://www.myspace.com/logansurl .

Maybe she'll look beyond that bald head, "new and improved" macho man stance and the list of what might appeal to some-other-guy kind of information--no, he's straight. I'd try to tell him that this ain't gonna work with the kind of woman he wants to commit to one day, but I'd probably hurt his feelings. I don't care to hurt the feelings of a guy who wrote one of the sweetest little love stories I've read in a long time. It should be published. Too bad I can't get him to post it here.

So, try your luck at getting him to share that little love story he wrote...or, at least help him polish that online profile into a glowing star so we all get to see a new loving couple and happy ending. Oh, and IF he finds the perfect mate due to this blatant plug, he better name his first born daughter MAGGIE :) ...... © 2006 Maggie Mink aka Rennie Lorca