Dee.
Maybe the reason he is not scared to look into the mirror of your heart is because he realises that that is where the true beauty is......
I must stop just popping back in like this huh?
Gala - Hey! I had no idea you are in the Philly area! I will have to see about our 'agendas', considering Todd is usually working more than half the time we visit anyways, so if our weekend consists of sightseeing, I would love to meet up with ya for a little lunch or something!
Hey Erin---Great minds must think alike---didn't catch your piece till this morning---the prism things was not a rip off of your concept...
like yours better---more concise.....
The Wench
Hey Shady---
Bein sur---live inbetween Phillie and New Yawk...
but do remember I am ancient, stodgy, and liable to embarass you in public places...my nature!
Love old Aunty Gala
Wow - I actually just read your discussion questions Gala, and I want to join in :-)
I will keep it short since I have a definite tendency to ramble on.
Love or Lust: That for me is easy. The two seem to separate after a couple of weeks, when I realize that I love all the little quirks that would probably normally annoy me. When he does something that is potentially embarrassing and I don't care. When he says something like "I forgot to put deodorant on this mroning, do I smell?" and I am willing to take a wiff and not think he's less attractive when I pull away. Hahahaha...I guess when the reality of him sets in, and the dream of it all doesn't seem quite an important anymore, than it's love.
Men Love vs. Women Love: Geez, my own experiences are very limited. Love ain't lived hea fo' a looong time. OK, personal experience, all the men in my life who loved me loved me out of need. Which I guess does not really count as true love, since it was an idea of me they loved. As for me, when a man can make looking in the mirror fun, I'm in love. When I notice the sky everyday, or like every new song that comes out. When I appreciate every little thing he does for me. When I start rethinking the future of my heart.
Pet Peeve: I honestly don't think I know of any pet peeve that will cover all, or even most men. My ex's don't even have many in common. The all had indiviual ones. For now, it drives me crazy when Todd will tell me weeks later "Oh, I was jealous of that guy that night" instead of telling me how he feels and when. I know revealing feelings is a vulnerability, believe me, I am a pretty closed person, but I guess one of MY faults is that once I open up to someone, I expect the same in return. "I showed you mine, now you show me yours" type of thing. Which is pretty impatient and unrealistic of me. I also know that I change constantly. What I want and need right now is different 20 minutes from now. I hate that, and I'm sure the men in my life hate it more. Heeheehee...not that men don't have mood swings!!!
Wow...i think I rambled...eeek!
Alrighty...time for a little TaeBo and then its off to school for me. Toodles everyone!
Responding to the 3 questions:
Love vs Lust:....easy....Lust, below the waist
Love, all inclusive...(mind)
Men vs Women: views on love or how they differ
None.....just remember that "Actions speak
louder than words"
Pet Peeves: Men and Women who miss the opportunity at love by not taking risks when telling person how they really feel....and then at
some point, having regrets about what might
have been...
Men and women who abuse each other....no
explanation needed for that......
Hello again Gang---
Before it erupts into a donnybrook, I did in fact ask for people's ideas. There are no right or wrong answers to the 3 Q's. But it's neat to hear people straining the grey matter about love. Please no bickering about variations on the theme---it's sort of like arguing with someone over what a strawberry tastes like.
As for me, I love reading the thoughts, the ideas, and the touchstone of truth each new batch brings. Not all is mocha fudge ripple---or vanilla for that matter.
Oh---almost forgot---my Valen-shine of today is our Blender Keeper Kirk---he who makes all of us possible.
(And I am not kissing butt---so there!)
Thanks Kirk---I've called you the ring master of this little circus, but I owe you a deep debt of gratitude. You have fashioned a haven, a literary salon where us poetic types can gather. It's a wonderful escape, and catharsis and more.
I don't envy you your task...but I am happy and grateful that you take it on....
Gala
O.K everyone I'm new to the Blender and I'm curious to know whether you guys are clickish or what.
First Love vs. Lust
How did I know the difference. To be truthfully honest I didn't until I decided to stop having sex (for a while). It seems as though I began to really get to know the people who wanted to have a relationship with me.I also learned alot about relationships and myself. Nevermind I have always had a "type" of person that I was attracted to. I had to abandon my old methods of attracting and maintaining a relationship. I learned who liked me for who I am.Not for how I look or how great I am in bed.Since I have made this decision I have grown spiritually and I have learned more about love from that perspective. I have had two proposals. I think that I want to marry my current boyfriend. It's been really tough learning to depend on God to establish my relationships but I'm sure I'll be blessed in the end. I can't hardly wait until we are married. You understand.
The difference between the way that men and women view love? That depends on the man and the woman's upbringing not thier sex. Remember we are talking about love not sex don't get the two confused. If I were to say that a man makes his decision about relationships based on sex, I would really be underestimating the intelligence of men? What do you think?
My Pet Peeve about relationships is that when youre having fun, you want to get serious. But once you get serious, sometimes you loose the fun.
So everyone, am I (the newcomer) allowed to ask a question of my own?
Is the sexual relationship between a man and a woman the main factor which determines the future of the relationship?
Can men establish a relationship without having sex?
Can't wait to hear from you!!!!!!!!!
Okay, now that I've read *winning the loss* by my favorite poet I can skip away from cyberspace satisfied and ready to deliver the rest of the papers with a smile on my face.
****Shadygirl, you make me laugh out loud! I need to put a letter in the mail. I've got some pictures of the snow for ya!
****I can't answer any more questions regarding love and lust. Bye.
Okay Pensacola,
In answer to your several questions---no the blenderites are not clique-ish---there are certainly relationships---which do not feature sex---but anyone who has looked over the Blender even briefly would notice that they enjoy a good verbal battle.
Men and women can forge relationships without sex. Happens everyday, usually as a matter of mutual choice.
What you touch on is a greater issue---chastity vs fidelity I think. Chastity is fine---provided it is mutual. I have known more than a few males who considered it their duty to greatly reduce the number of nubile female virgins walking the earth---then insisted upon a virgin when they married.
I think that's called being a hypocrite. So if you have two chaste individuals who wish to maintain their virtue, that is lovely. It's not "different" for guys.
Fidelity is another issue---and I hope sincerely that you don't believe that chastity before wedding insures fidelity afterward, because sadly the statistics do not bear that one out.
I believe the key word here is "choice". You must choose what works for you, and your beliefs. I wish you well, and wish you happiness.
poetwench
Gala - go sightseeing with the Shadygirl... you'll LOVE it. You won't get to see everything you had planned but you'll have a BLAST!! (So says she who spent 2yrs in traffic looking for a parking space to go up the Empire State Building, and didn't get to see the Statue of Liberty in a week in NY.. but wouldn't change a SECOND of it.. hmm... ok, so I'd change the last say... 12hrs <still blushing>.
Shady is AWESOME... in that way only SHE can say.. Girl - I loves ya.
Pensacola - Cliquish... no way!!!
Come on in! Welcome - be as loud as you need to make yourself heard above the noise - and sometimes thats REAL loud.
Riggs - ohhh you are a charmer! and yes you really must stop popping in, come in, sit, talk for abit. <grin> I wish you'd email this girl.
'Sunny Country' speaks volumes.
Poetwench - thanks for the kind note in my guestbook... it made me smile.. Picasso? I don't think so!!!
(anyone thats interested http://homepages.paradise.net.nz/~deevaa/ - I've got works from, Shady, Kevin, Misti, X and the Guppy online already - Plans for a page for Gala are in the pipelines... anyone else who is interested, contact me.)
Gup - Baby, 'Winning the Loss' back ontop of your form!! <grin> welcome back.
Take care of your hearts.
dee
PS... when is Kev back?
I was curious about copyright protenction for our works that we post. Would you please contact me with information about my question. I would really appreciate it.
(upon reading miss Dee's latest post, has fainted dead away from shock....delight---and shock!
ZARA LOVE SOME AND SOME ANE LOVE ZARA
MESSAGE FOR MY BEST FRIEND
I MESS YOU A LOT OF TIME
TAQI IT'S JUST FOR FUN
FOR SPECIAL POINT 037-048
just be more detailed
Hey Luke---
On offense man, but about the best thing that could happen to anyone would be someone ripping off their poetry---it might be the only way I know of to actually make money writing the stuff---
Poetry is great---but you better be doing it for love---cause the bucks aren't in it.
Poetwench
(who is not a lawyer, or legal expert of any kind.)
river of tears
batween love and hate
river of tears
runing ,
same storie
thausand lie
milion tears
to eternity i could speak
or sing a thausand song but it's only one truth
i miss you.
gala - puh-lease...embarrass me? Ain't no such thing.
Misti - YAY! SNAIL MAIL! :-) Happy to know I amuse...:-)
Dee - Oh shush up, you! Hahaha...I was a magnificant tour guide...did I not show you Broadway? Did you not see The Met? Did you not get hugs and kisses from hot young "before they were stars" actors singing in a cheesy little cramped bar? (BTW, Brian is now is 3 commercials, do you get the same commercials as we do, in NZ?) Did you not get served by some of the most adorable Irish accented bartenders? Did you not get completely sloppy drunk in my apartment with all my silly friends to the point you forgot your own name for a few hours? And DID WE NOT SHOP???!!???! Dare I say more? I think not! (Awesome! :-) Hehehe...
Kev - sweet thang, where is you?
O M G...
Leave for almost five days and just _LOOK_ what happens!
*waves in Blender's general direction*
I type this from WORK, of all places, just having rolled into town not even three hours ago (it is 8 p.m. now). Not only am I ALREADY tired from all that extraneous galavanting in the desert (In Las Vegas, 90 miles from where I was, they have not seen a drop of rain in 140 days now), but I have almost 180 messages in all my inboxes... Add to that ALL this Blender Board stuff and the submissions, I have reading material for DAYS (thanks everyone!!). Just in passing (I only skimmed a few comments so far) I note that someone asked what kind of material gets read by the fair readers out here in the ether. I am one who reads every single submission (save duplicates). I personally find many colorfully turned phrases and images quite imaginative and often wonderful, even if surrounded by words of lesser quality (e.g., I know some of mine fairly SUCK sometimes). I do periodically comment on works that touch me where I live and where I write... So any of you out there who think that your material is passed over for those of the 'inner clique,' I say nay! Nay I say! I'll read them all (just not today).
whew... I am truly overwhelmed...
-tired k
Pensacola....a response to your question...my thoughts are that one person is using numerous names in here and just loves self praise....a convenient way to get attention, huh?....haha....have not commented on which nicknames of course..so I guess those that holler the loudest in an attack....are guilty...:)
Can you please remove my two poems:
"Grasping at Shadows" and
"Through a Window"?
I don't want them up anymore.
Thanks!
Caroline Zarlengo Sposto
caroline@sposto.com
ohhhhh good call!!!
LOL...
dee