Geez Louise, Kirk----
The Blender is chock full of Jersey Girls! How the heck did that happen? If nothing else, it's statistically interesting....
Love Gala
Gala, all first kisses are perfect when they are with someone special. One funny first kiss episode for me was when i was 13 and just learned what a "french kiss" was. Two friends and I went to this pizza place around the corner from my house to play pinball and a group of about 20 girls that just graduated Jr. High (8th grade for non-US people) were having a graduation party. I don't remember how it started or who asked who, but we ended up offering graduation kisses to them all and they followed us outside behind the building. NO KIDDING, we literally had a LINE of girls waiting to be kissed by each of us and many going to the end of the line for seconds...It was really cool until my mom came looking for me and was laughing at the display until she realized HER SON was one of the boys they were waiting in line for. Ohhhhhhhh wild youth, where did thee go?
Oh Boy---am I gonna get in trouble for this one....
(deep breath)
Chrsy---
Those innocent days of discovery got lost because we so called adults decided to move on to "bigger and better" things--- I told one of my younger FGK not to get involved with sex yet---because when you do, boys forget about kissing. Or it becomes something they do to get to the "main event".
I would probably give my eye teeth to spend a few hours just kissing again....but the intimacy of it short circuits men over 18. Yes, I know---Men have needs...but so do women, and I believe we never lose our need for kissing...quality AND quantity. Sex is lovely...but it's only a part of the equation...
Ladies---I think I'm gonna need an escort to get out of the building alive....
re: From: Galadrial
Date: 4 May 2000
Oh Boy---am I gonna get in trouble for this one....
Gala,
I am a recent poster to the Blender, though I have been a lurker for a while enjoying the fabulous writing. Pardon for this intrusion, if it feels like one, but I have read so much of all you guys' work that it feels sorta like I know you all at least a little.
Anyway, I cannot let your last post go unchallenged long, *GRIN* . My first kiss was at the fine young age of 10 thanks to the girl next door. She invited me to that age old game of 'Doctor', through which I discoved much, albeit of the innocent variety. She also sparked my first real interest in the opposite sex, because of that very first kiss. Even totally naive, inexperienced, and utterly 'little boy' clumsy, the fact that she was an older woman (all of 13), and knew how to 'soul kiss' was enough to teach me that I had found something special and potentially valuable.
From that beginning, I think kissing is still the most intimate, tender, and satisfying acts availabe between two people in love. It is much more than foreplay, and I daresay every 'real' man knows that and does NOT hold the attitude that kissing is only the necessary warm up to the main event!
And while summer is a wonderful time of year for many things, I believe nothing rivals late fall and winter as the best time for romantic kisses. Snow falling, crackling fireplace, hot chocolate and a blanket, walks through the cold in anticipation of all the above?? What romantic could resist...
And I hold the firm belief that kissing should be done hours at a time...
Terry
Terry,
You are very sweet...and forgive my cynacism...but say you were offered a hypothetical choice---sex without kissing(of any kind) for the rest of your days---or kissing without sex...choose. NO cheating...
Gala(trading gossamer for Kevlar)
Hey Nikki----
This split personality stuff is bizzare---just sent my sister my latest piece...her response?
"Great poem. Who the hell is Gala?"
Sigh,
G.
Even Elven Queens Get The Blues...
Crys -- for us Non-US folk ... 8th grade is worse? what the hell AGE is that?
In NZ you go to pre-school or creche from around 2-5yrs
5-10 you are in primary school...
10-17(ish) you are at secondary school also called college. (starting with form 1 working up to form 7)
then if you choose you can go on to university or polytechnic -- university is more knowlegde based (degrees with majors in Engish or sciences) and polytech is more practical skills based. (where you study to become a nurse or a chef or those things...)
(hmmm.. that was just gonna be a quick comment... I guess you'll know now!)
Gala -- don't be blue, you own a deevaa painting... you can never be blue now!
dee
Gala,
Wow you play hard ball! But I accept your challege and the qualification of 'no cheating'. There are just so many factors to consider in such a question. Leaving out the procreation urge and all the attendant complications, I guess there is really only one deciding factor. Who is my partner?? If it is the love of my life (Sandi) I choose kissing. But in my mind I am probably cheating by creating my own narrow definition of 'sex' as intercouse. There are a million other varieties of foreplay and intimacy i envision with that kissing.
But regardless of my definitions, I do know that a lifetime of sex without the intimacy of kissing would get old very fast.
Also realize that if I lost my Sandi for any reason my answer would be very different here. Your other half in this choice makes ALL the difference I think!
And i forgive most cynicism, as it is now such a cynical world. I try to let my fiction, and paintings and poems show my heart and nature. Only real love can disprove cynicim anyway :>)
Now fess up as a woman....Your choice would be???
And DO NOT give me the quick pat answer. I would really like a woman's perspective and reasoning for choosing either way! You were very gracious to reply to a stranger I know...
ps. Gossamer coated Kevlar could be quite the invention!
Terry
Okay Mr. Smarty Pants----
Since it's been opined that my mouth will be the last thing on me to go, I opt for lips!
Actually, I figure I'll be capable of kissing a lot longer than anything else....so with deep pain and much grumbling---I'll settle for eternal kissing. The plus for this is that lips don't require Viagra!
Exit, stage left, to beat Dee, who is laughing her butt off about now!
Gala
<bursts out giggling as soon as she sees Gala>
Hey guys - I've just got my painting back from the framers -- they look so freaking good... I'm so damn happy I'm looking for people to kiss!!!
Damn -- I think I'm going to cry!!
Wow, this is far too cool.
dee
PS my ex hubby wasn't into kissing -- it wasn't a part of his culture, we never spent alot of time kissing, and I missed it a little, however.. something I liked doing was putting my mouth near his and just feeling his breath on my lips, or in my ear, that had some very passionate moments... I called it 'inhaling' -- "mouth to mouth, not kissing - but inhaling the other's GASP...."
Gala,
Trust me...I feel your deep pain. ROTFLMAO
Exiting by means of the trap door...
T.
Hey Gala, will you stop driving Terry mad?? ROFL
You guys are killing me, and my roommate is most likely wondering when I went off the deep end.
And as an impartial opinion, wwhich wasn't asked for, I would have to say that a lifetime of kissing without sex, well...it would have to depend on the person...some guys just don't kiss that well...no offense to any of the strapping young men here of course.
And Gala, I know hoe you feel with the whole split personality thing...my mom said the same thing to me...who's lanna? It helps though that quite a few people in my offline life know that I use lanna for basically everything that nikki just won't do for.
Talk to youall later...(I really gotta get that spacebar fixed)
Nikki
(all wide eyed innocence)
Make a man crazy? Me? Nahhhh!
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Mo and I don't kiss that much- I think I tend to be overly paranoid about my fever blisters (I get about 4 outbreaks a year). Honestly, I don't miss it all that much, but i do enjoy the kisses we do share.
First kiss? Summer camp, KJ, laying out in the sun by the lake, her leaning over and sharing the "atomic fireball" candy she was holding in her mouth. Hot stuff in at least three senses of the phrase!
OK OK OK... everyone has skimmed over my question about dating someone who is a friend of an ex.... I'm going for coffee with him tomorrow (a weekend coffee date... hmmm....) someone help me before I go mental... I've a strong urge to kiss someone and I might do damage!
dee
<gigging> why don't I remember my first kiss? I guess its not all that strange, I don't even remember Ade asking me to marry him.... I do remember waking up the next morning and thinking happily 'we're getting married!'