From: Claire<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Rose ~ I like "Union of Souls" for its vividly tense and emotive aire... an exciting piece of writing. "Could I Write," with its firm rhythm and interesting phrasings, poses your question quite  delicately. "Entwined," however, brought back to mind the velvet feel of classic poetry, and I must thank you, in earnest, for the gifting.  <BR>
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Deeva ~ "3 glass walls and a coffee cup."  A contemporary-sounding piece with far more sensitivity than the title intimates. Nicely done. <BR>
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Eric ~ I think you explained "Named Gloria" quite well, actually. I could hear it as a song as I read, stanzas two and five make a great chorus. <BR>
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kerry goode ~ Your devotion to your "mom" makes me smile. :o)<BR>
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~ Claire<BR>
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From: deevaa<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Megs -- Briget Jones Diary... is that the one where she gives up smoking, puts on heaps of weight and goes through about 100 men? (hey thanks).... (giggling) and pink karma beads.... they haven't got here yet.. send me some over (probably cause its the middle of winter... and pink beads don't exactly go with woollen cardys and coats... but hell I needs me some of them)<BR>
<BR>
dee
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From: nikki<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Wow...I turn my back for a second, and there are a ton more new ones...<BR>
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Chris W.--'Family Pal' is quite the piece....my family helps me to carry the happy burden of powerful love...beautiful...my sister was just married a month ago...congratulations to you and yours...<BR>
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sarah--I love 'fantasy:yellow plaster wall' I wonder if we've all had these kinds of fantasies<BR>
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I think I'm almost done for the night ladies and gents...I hear my soft pillow calling my name...<BR>
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if no more is to come from me...sweet dreams lovebugs...Nikki
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From: Paul B<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Nikki - Play Games brought a smile to my face.  I'm a baseball nut and harmless flirt as well so I was able to relate to this one.  Good work.
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From: Galadrial<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

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<BR>
Oh Angel----<BR>
<BR>
                Say it ain't so!!!!!!! I made my daughter clean her room (See 12 labors of Hercules, augean stables?)<BR>
However---my development abounds with ladies who are...uhm..large? I mean very---so Gala can go to the pool in a swimsuit---with her thunder thighs...and be comfy...even regarded as mildly foxy...which is really magic!<BR>
                And with regards to said bickering---all---are you really going to get a major head of steam going about B.S.?  People----let's focus on poetry---prose---not celebrities....isn't there a people magazine dot.com for that?<BR>
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                No matter......love to all...elven imperatrix, elven information officer---over and out.......
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From: Tara<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Chris W. - Welcome back - I loved your poem about your sisters wedding......<BR>
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Nikki - your latest are really fabulous - it is such a wonderful thing to realize that you love yourself isn't it....<BR>
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From: Megs<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Dee-  ACTUALLY she only put on about three pounds when it was all said and done...so there.  It was more her attitude and way of talking that made me think of you, I dunno.  I have to pick myself up some more "karma beads" just because I am still superstitious...so I will mail some down to Kiwi land if you'd like *grin*  as long as you don't keep laughing at me *LOL*<BR>
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Gala-  I almost have a car now so I myself am contemplating a road trip toward the north to visit my FGM and my misery sister (Ash)  Tell Desi to keep her room clean and you give me a call with good times?  If the company of said FGK (though bullheaded and dumb in lust) is desired...<BR>
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Till Later-<BR>
Megs
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From: laurel ahlfeld<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Not to be pushy, because I know I am still relatively new to the blender, but I think this whole Brittney Spears controversy needs to end. Silent Voice, you have proven your point to your own satisfaction. Please, let it rest. Paul, we know you were just having some fun with our Brittney poser. We also know you are a great person. Don't let whatever this "Silent Voice" has to say get to you. I believe you are above that. Can we let this die? This is a place for love, not for fighting. I'm afraid if this doesn't end soon I might leave the blender.<BR>
Love-n-Lollipops,<BR>
Laurel
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From: Galadrial<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

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<BR>
Laurel dear---please don't leave...the Blender has it's moments...I made my own little fuss back in December...and in the end, discovered the wonderful talented sweet kindly talented, and regrettably short secret sister who was stolen from my family and transplanted in NZ.<BR>
<BR>
Yes, the Blender is about love...but it also serves some as a place to blow off life stress....by focusing on small stuff. I would miss not only your subs---but your commentary..so please give us another chance?<BR>
<BR>
And Meg pet---of course you can visit. Desi will try to adopt you, of course. Think your heart needs a rest my sweet FGK...<BR>
<BR>
one tiny suggestion from Farty God Mother? Stop running...Love isn't a race, and only real losers are the ones who never tried. You need to be true to Megs first---and really love her before you offer your heart to anyone. That's always step one...because if you don't love yourself <BR>
no one will ever be able to fill that gap for you...and it will never be enough.....<BR>
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                                       So Says Gala
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From: Galadrial60<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

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<BR>
Based on the recent comments, I must assume summer dulldrums<BR>
are in full swing-------<BR>
so it's time for THREE QUESTIONS FROM GALA!<BR>
<BR>
The rules are the same---everyone takes a stab at answering---no answer is better, wrong, or incorect.<BR>
The purpose is to clear emotional cobwebs that can get in the way of art---by causing writer's block...or simply having fun....<BR>
<BR>
And yes, I will answer my own questions too....<BR>
<BR>
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1.  How many flavors of love are there, really? I asked this question of Dee the other night---and it really is a broad question. Love can be tinted by lust, friendship, devotion,attraction, compatitibility, contrast, context...<BR>
go for it dears---and examples are useful....<BR>
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2.  Given that even romantic love can take a lot of shapes,<BR>
how difficult is it to set parameters for your heart? Are the borders definite, or blurred?<BR>
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3.  Everyone of us has known love---and the accompanying heart ache, baggage and complication. The bard said it's better to love, and lose than never to have loved (Jersey Chick paraphrase). So you are offered a choice---with a cost.  Say you could erase every last ow of the heart---no sad memories, no pain, no regrets from the past...onoly to do so you must also erase all memory of the person you loved...Would you do it? Why or why not<BR>
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                                   My answers will come in a day or so.<BR>
                                        Gala<BR>
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                                  (stirring the pot!)
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From: ZoE<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

MeGs- I was dating a pisces for a bit. I know alot about them. Not sure how ideal they are with Leos. :)<BR>
-ZoE
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From: C.L. Hollinghead<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Alright Galadrial....My answers are as follows....<BR>
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1. How many flavors of love are there, really? <BR>
-I think that there are only two....Puppy love and Love love. Puppy love, where you think that you love someone but you only have the felling for weeks to a few months....Love love, where you love the person for all your life and never forget them and every day of the year your thinking about them. Attraction, lust, etc., fall into those two catagories I believe.-<BR>
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2. Given that even romantic love can take a lot of shapes,<BR>
how difficult is it to set parameters for your heart? Are the borders definite, or blurred?<BR>
-I don't understand this question completly.-<BR>
<BR>
3. Everyone of us has known love---and the accompanying heart ache, baggage and complication. The bard said it's better to love, and lose than never to have loved (Jersey Chick paraphrase). So you are offered a choice---with a cost. Say you could erase every last ow of the heart---no sad memories, no pain, no regrets from the past...onoly to do so you must also erase all memory of the person you loved...Would you do it? Why or why not<BR>
-I would never think of erasing the only love I have ever known, for she completes my heart and my soul though at the same time it tears me up inside since I have never told her how I feel....All of my love for her makes up for every heartache I've ever felt.-
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From: Galadrial60<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

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Why C.L.---you are A COMER---brave too...and I thank you for leading us off...<BR>
<BR>
now as to my answers---and remember, I only make up the questions---it's not like I'm a teacher with an answer key tucked away...deep breath...and...<BR>
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Types of love--there are many---and each as unique as the person we share them with...and yes, love must be shared to count. One way streets can feel intense---but unless the love is shared, it's a no go...(listening o Meg o'my heart?)<BR>
In the last several months several people have touched my life---and I found myself dazzled---my breath taken away by what they have added to my life emotionally. I love them all--each in a different way---and their loss would cut me deeply, and leave me less complete. <BR>
<BR>
But having been around the love block once or twice, I resent having to class affection---friend love, family love--the love of a lover---and while I know that they are different, it doesn't make them less...I've even learned that you can fall madly in love with A person's soul or spirit---and they with yours...my point is that it still COUNTS. Degree doesn't matter with love...I know what my heart tells me--and rationalizing doesn't make anything go away....<BR>
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2.I guess by answer to this one is "It depends". My love for my daughter is clean cut. No confusion there...but there are so many others that qualify....and are not neither fish, nor fowl---not fruit or veggie...<BR>
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3.No---even if I had to pay the price of love a thousand times...I've learned too much from each love---and I would never have to re-learn any of it.........<BR>
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                                         So Says Gala<BR>
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next victim?<BR>
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From: Megs<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

I looooooooooooooooove the question game *giggles*<BR>
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1.  Types of love-  Wow...I have been thinking on this one anyways.  I think we can be in love for so many reasons:  I have loved for a feeling...for the sheer challenge...for pure passion...but the thing is (the thing I am learning now)is there is one ALL encompassing love that covers it and that is what I am missing.  For example with Calvin (the long-term guy) I LOVE the fact that I can be totally myself around him, the honesty of our friendship, the way we can lose ourselves in kisses...but there is some romantic element missing...the "adoration" part of love is what I am calling it...I think THAT is the last perfect puzzle piece.  That "adoration" love.  Any takers on this?<BR>
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2.  Parameters of the heart?  Mine are super blurry...I don't ever have a CLEAR defined only one kind of love for a person...its impossible for me to limit how I feel and hold back when I should.  Occasionally this causes complicated relationships.  <BR>
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3.  Ahhhhhhhhhhhh a chance to erase the pain...the pain of love?  I don't think any mutual loves have caused me so much pain that I would want to forget it.  But the unrequited ones- OOOOOOOOOOwwwwwwwwww...I STILL wouldn't want to forget.  Yup- I have learned a few lessons.  Or at least I see lessons I should have learned and am trying to apply.  Its like that Garth Brooks' song I s'pose...I could have missed the pain but I'd have had to miss the dance...eh?<BR>
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Gala-  WOW I took off and RAN with these.  What's the prize?<BR>
A vacay to New Jersey?
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From: deevaa<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

NOT fair.... if I answer and give the same answer as I did via email then I'll be told off for cheating but if I answer and change my story I'll be told off for fibbing.<BR>
<BR>
(off to pout)<BR>
<BR>
btw.... been painting like a crazy woman.... check out my home page if you wanna see more..... ohhh and I am gonna link to the two handsomest blender men later tonight... Terry and Chris W (grin).<BR>
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(covering her butt) guppy I still love you... I've not quite run off with Chris... (wink).. or Hank... or Terry.... or... or...<BR>
<BR>
dee<BR>

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From: Galadrial60<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

<BR>
<BR>
Don't be silly---that email was to me...you can give the same answer silly...<BR>
<BR>
But I do think you are heartless wench....what of Riggs?<BR>
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Don't worry Riggs---Gala still loves you...<BR>
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                                   Gala<BR>
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                            (Running for cover)
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From: deevaa ([email-masked])<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

1. How many flavours of love are there, really?<BR>
<BR>
My answer to this is that there are hundreds apon hundreds of types of love.... and that each person you love gives us something different, and that one person can't give you every flavour -- I don't believe that a couple no matter how desperately in love can survive in isolation -- You'll always  need that person that gives you the 'mother nurturing love', the 'friend you can tell anything love' , along side the type of  love that your special someone gives you. <BR>
<BR>
Don't get me wrong I'm not saying that you can only love people in one way, but I believe that each person in your life can bring something new to your relationships. Within each relationship there is still elements of each type of love.<BR>
<BR>
2. Parameters for your heart? Are the borders definite, or blurred?<BR>
<BR>
BLURRED..... like I said above each person has elements of 'other love' ... I loved my husband as a friend, as a lover and as a person who could make me smile in any situation, and now that we are apart I still have that friend and that person who can make me smile, but the lover part has moved on.<BR>
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3. the cost?<BR>
<BR>
I'll keep the pain, people grow through pain and learn to know themselves and shape a much 'fuller' person at the end.... I'd never give up the moments I treasure, no matter what the price -- and that includes the whole range of emotions, the hurt, the love, the pain, the pleasure.... some of the things I've learnt the most from have been the most painful. (Being a parent sums up that nicely).<BR>
<BR>
And besides -- I need the pain for my art.... how else will I be a troubled artist? (grin)<BR>
<BR>
And Gala, as for Riggs, he is Aussie -- I am kiwi... there are laws about that kind of thing.<BR>
dee<BR>
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From: [email-masked]<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

gala cool butt kickin questions!<BR>
<BR>
i wanna answer!!!<BR>
<BR>
numero uno:<BR>
<BR>
flava's of love....i have to admit right now i'm in the midst of a very icky break up and have been for the past few months, its been over for me, but not for him....and what i once thought was love, really isn't..so i think there is that certain idealism and hope that you can mistake for a kinda "love" even though it isn't.  and i think you find out what truly exists when you put the physical aside and decide to put love more on a spiritual plane (who am i to speak i'm a horndog!!!!)  but i'm struggling with that at the moment...but....you have that sweet pure love that you feel when you are with those right kind of people, those copisetic types (sp????) (thats my word of the week i had to incorporate it) then that all out primal animal instinct you feel with others where you just have to touch them....and your heart pounds and flesh sweats when your within inches....this paragraph could just keep going!!!! i'll continue this paragraph later.<BR>
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numero dos:<BR>
<BR>
parameters.  boundaries suck.  and we all have those certain relationships in our life where we feel bound, where we are not quite that "heightened" us when we are around certain people... and that part of you is bound when you are with them...and theres no way to unleash it...and then there are those people you say you can NEVER care about but you can't stop your heart from beating or your brain from thinking or yourself from feeling emotion, it just is, and always shall be.  and if you set boundaries on your emotions, you gonna miss alot, especially in love.  and maybe if eliminate those boundaires (well you can never completely eliminate boundaries) you are you going to experience some damn hard heart aches, and your gonna cry some nights and not be able to stop, but then when you love you love to fullest and you don't put a damper on that flow...and its pure, its so damn pure that what have you got to lose because you know you gave of yourself freely.<BR>
<BR>
(am i answering this in the right order????)<BR>
<BR>
numero tres:<BR>
<BR>
i forgot what numero tres is, gotta go look, i'll answer it after that then, ha!!!!<BR>
<BR>
life is good, even if you are tired.<BR>
<BR>
sarah
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From: [email-masked]<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

looking back on numero tres, i guess i sort of answered it in my numero dos, so numero dos is a combination of numero tres and numero dos, hence its numero loco!!!<BR>
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hasta lasagna don't get some on ya!!!<BR>
<BR>
sarah
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From: Zero #1<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Hello everyone from the world's number 1 Zero! I love reading through all the stuff. Personally, I love the stuff about Brittany Spears although I personally think that everyone needs to STOP talking about her and everything else. That way it just dies ya know? <BR>
  Anyways, I hope everyone is doing well and I'll read some new stuff real soon. Plus I'll try to submit some more stuff,,I've been busy with college! *sigh*
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From: Galadrial60<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

<BR>
<BR>
Oh you folks are great....<BR>
<BR>
But I hear silence---Mr. Urenda? Oh Kevin...seems like you evaded the last two Q&A...Ladies, Kevin needs persuading...say hourly e-mails till he cooperates? Nikki? Megs? Dee? Wanna help?<BR>
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                                    evil Gala
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From: nikki<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Paul-- Glad you enjoyed Playing Games...although I have to say, it caused one of my friends at work to worry, and I just couldn't get across to her that it was a playful piece, and not at all a cry for help...<BR>
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Tara--Thanks for liking my latest...and yes, it is a wonderful feeling<BR>
<BR>
As for the Questions...You know I love the question game Gala!<BR>
<BR>
1)I have to agree with Dee...there are far too many flavors of love to count, or to name, and I am quite sure I have not experienced all of them, although I would like to experience as many as possible in this lifetime.  The different people that touch your life brings different insight into the different (wow, way overused that word) ways you can love a person.  It's a forever learning experience, and just like Baskin Robbins, I intend to try it all.  (Well, maybe not ALL..I do draw the line somewhere)<BR>
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2)I don't think I have any set parameters.  They change for the various people I love, have loved, or will love.  I think loves are like snowflakes, no two are exactly the same, and to carry over definite borders, or lines from one to another is unfair.  There are just feelings that you can have with one, and not with another, and so mine are definitely blurred.<BR>
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3)there is nothing anyone could offer me for me to give up the memories of my past loves.  The pain is part of it.  It helps me to grow, maybe learn from my mistakes, and has made me who I am.  Without pain, how do we really know we are experiencing happiness, anyway?  So no, I would definitely hold onto the pain, as well as the happy memories.  Besides, some of my best writing comes from painful moments!<BR>
<BR>
Great questions FGM...and I hope I didn't copy anyone else's answers.  I just answered from the heart, like with everything I do...which gets me into trouble sometimes!<BR>
<BR>
And I would definitely help out persuading the evasive Mr. Urenda, if I didn't already know that he is awfully tired lately, and should probably be sleeping, rather than reading this right now.  Go to bed, Kev!  love you hon!<BR>
<BR>
well guys and gals...I think this hippie chick is off for an early night....too long a day at work..not enough sleep...and I swear I will catch up onnew subs as soon as I can focus my eyes!<BR>
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later lovebugs!.....nikki
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From: anony  new here<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

new here, havn't written in a while, looking for inspiration<BR>
<BR>
Chris W.<BR>
tears are shed again and again.  and again, mixed with mine as I read.<BR>
If only an aprenhensive, gregarious facade exterior and an intense deepening soul would be welcomed to caress your sullen heart....<BR>
<BR>
Nikki<BR>
traveler, I believe in the same format of life. I've been trying to get those thougths out for a life time. Impressed.<BR>
<BR>
Angel <BR>
Nature inspired.  Why don't catapillars want to become butterflies?<BR>
 
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From: Chris W. at [email-masked]<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

to the above, thanks for the comment!<BR>
<BR>
on to the questions posed:<BR>
1.  i'd have to say that any emotion, love in particular is like a spectrum.  there are all sorts of types and they blend into eachother, like the spectrum of light.  one can have a particular type of love, but i'd liken it to picking a point out on a line on which there are an infinite number of points.<BR>
2.  therefore, parameters are blurred as any type of love can be mix of different shades...an emotional mutt if you will.<BR>
3.  and i'll be going with the consensus on this one...no way you give up any experience of love as these are life experiences.  and without them, what is life?<BR>

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From: MommasBoy<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

You guys don't know me but I'll answer.<BR>
1. Dunno.<BR>
2. Dunno.<BR>
3. I'd never give any of it up.
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From: Chris W.<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

and by the way...<BR>
dee, you're making me blush!!!!!!!
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From: Megs<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Hmmmmmm...a chance to poke Kev into action?<BR>
Any mischievious niece type child would take that...<BR>
*gently prods Kev*<BR>
Wake up and PLaaaaaaaaaaaYYYYY!!!<BR>
<BR>
Good enough Gala?<BR>

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From: Chris W. at [email-masked]<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

nikki:  validation and playing games...damn tough stuff.  i really liked them both!<BR>
claire brown bower:  reverie's design was very pretty.  you definitely have a way with words.<BR>
dee:  i'm loving the stuff you've sent me.  keep painting like a mad woman!!!!<BR>

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From: deevaa<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

Chris W -- I don't care if I make ya blush.. lets run away and get married.<BR>
<BR>
(giggling and dashing off)
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From: Chris W.<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

c'mon dee...<BR>
don't beat around the bush!  tell me how you really feel!<BR>
(chuckle chuckle)<BR>

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From: deevaa<BR>
Date: 11 July 2000<P>

(Watches Chris run off into the distance in a big cloud of dust and mutters under her breath) now why the hell did I say that?<BR>
<BR>
(kicks herself)<BR>
<BR>

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