From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1120">Chances</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

I have done said test a couple of times. Have to say - I question how valid it is when it asks for comparisons between you and your partner, i.e. who is more? who does more? Wouldn't that make who you are dependent on who your partner is?!?
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1139">jwb71913</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

Chances, An interesting observation...  If you had a different partner would you be a different "type"?  And yes Irish, you are undeniably sexy.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1139">jwb71913</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

Oops, Should read "Yes Sheila, you are undeniably sexy".
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1552">Juhaa</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

Chris, I've been spending some time reading your stuff. VERY interesting. I'm liking your style. I notice that you submitted a lot of stuff for "Misti" (and a bit of your own) and then that stopped. I like the work that you do after that. It sounds more honest. More like you really pay attention to what is happening inside you. Like someone lit you up like a Christmas tree. It's cool. But then it seems like the person who lit you up is gone now? The stuff is still honest, and still very good. Almost better even. Because it has that intense emotion that can't be found when a person is comfortable, you know? Anyway, thanks for writing! <BR>
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*Juhaa
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1552">Juhaa</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

read more of your stuff, Chris...goin' down the list of titles. i'm at the part where i'm thinking you might have asked belinda an important question. lol. cool stuff here. you have a way of making things sound almost lonely (the lonely that is good, like the thoughts in a persons head) yet filled up and full of STUFF. I can't explain it. bla bla bla...words suck sometimes.<BR>
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*Juhaa
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=254">chris</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

Juhaa - <BR>
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Thanks for the thoughtful comments. "Stuff" is a good way to put it. Misti is my ex-wife. We got divorced this past April. Yeah, I'm now engaged again. Whoop-de-f***kin-do. I love my fiance, but divorce is in many ways worse than death because it's the disappearance without the closure. Also, fall seems to bring out a darkness in me that's probably always there. Ah, who cares. I'm talking like a high school Cure fan. Anyway, your stuff rocks too. Keep it up.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1552">Juhaa</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

bobopro ~ I enjoyed reading <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.09.21.18.23.24702">Mr.</a>. How long have you known about the Blender?<BR>
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*Juhaa
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1552">Juhaa</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

Chris, I think I can relate to some degree. I've experienced divorce. One thing that comes 'round and 'round through my head is; I did all I could do and I have learned from my mistakes. <BR>
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My present (and final) marriage is incredible...full of the learning I received and the greatness of my partner. It took a long time for me to trust anyone else OR myself. The same was true for my partner. But we met and found that we could learn to trust with each other. Together we ensure that the other is taken care of and happy. When we both make our focus the OTHER persons well being and don't worry about our own needs and wants, then we ensure our own happiness.  <BR>
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*Juhaa
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1507">Irish</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

thank you, Jim.  LOL.  how's the new lady?
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1507">Irish</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

Oops, Jim - for that question.  Have now just read "Why".<BR>
  :&gt;(
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1103">ladyinwaiting</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

bobopro ~ 'Mr.' is simply beautiful...thank you for sharing...and welcome aboard...hope to read more of you...
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1103">ladyinwaiting</a><BR>
Date: 22 September 2004<P>

juhaa ~ 'meeting me' is awesome...i too have stumbled over my own name...welcome aboard...keep the work coming...
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