From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=436">Jon</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

Star of David~ I wrote "bitch" for an old friend of mine that has been pissing me off as of late because of her relationship problems.  It's just hard for me to understand why so many women stay with men that treat them like trash, espcially when that person is a friend of mine.  I've tried being nice and supportive but now I'm just tired of hearing the same problem over and over again, so, I decided to let her know how I feel...by being brutally honest.<BR>
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-Jon
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1469">Erick Spangler</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

ANOTHER TRUE AND AMAZING STORY<BR>
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There was this big wedding in Simi Valley recently, and just before the vows were spoken, the bride turned to the assembled friends and relatives: <BR>
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"I want to thank you all for being here and for the beautiful gifts you've given." <BR>
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She turned to her beaming parents: <BR>
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"I want to thank my mother and father for all they've done for me." <BR>
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She turned to her husband-to-be: <BR>
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"And I want to thank you for sleeping with my maid-of-honor last night!" <BR>
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The bride then deposited her bouquet in the groom's face and stormed out of the church. <BR>

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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1139">jwb71913</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

alabama,  <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.05.13.22.50.4871">Questions in the Dark</a>   I could almost hear Tom Bodette in the back ground.  Very nice, but there comes a time when there's not enough energy to leave the light on anymore, at in my humble opinion.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=35">Star of David</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

Jon,<BR>
Oh... Now I get it :)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1">Kirk, Blender-Keeper</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

(test)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=902">spaded</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

angie-<BR>
 In my opinion if a man can not further a relationship with a woman because she can not have children, that does not make him a bad person.<BR>
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  It is the man who leaves the woman he married because they discover she can not have children who is a scum.  This is a major issue and I think it is always important to broach this subject before either party hears wedding bells.  <BR>
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  If you think that it is possible you can not have children maybe now is a good time to leave the relationship.  But don't let hypotheticals get in the way of what could be an awesome thing.<BR>
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spaded aka Holly
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=535">triciattx</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

Rennie- Thanks for the words of encouragement.  I am hoping some day to again have the blessings of a beautiful relationship, so I too can write something as lovely as 'None Too Soon.'  I've been inspired by your works for years.<BR>
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Jon, I read a while back that you're in your 20's but you are still one of the most romantic writers I've read in a long time.<BR>
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Gala, I've really missed your writing.  It was good to see you on the board.<BR>
Tricia
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=268">Misti</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

Fucking Yahoo!!@### Chris, I just sent you a long ass e-mail. God, I hate when that happens. Michael is peering over my shoulder acting like a drill sergeant, saying,"Rainwater! You better tighten it up!" Because I should be working. Anyway, I will REMIND Westaff that I no longer reside at that apartment and to stop calling you. That is ridiculous. I don't have a phone number but I have a new address. And yes, I have a high school diploma. Idiots. They're cracking down on that because they hired two people who don't even have their GEDs. Hope you have a kick ass weekend!!!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=900">RennieLorca</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

tricia~ thanks for writing those kind words my direction. I've scribbled notes about my feelings in relationships for years in calendar margins, take-home menu covers, on cocktail napkins, checkbook stub backs and more because I learned way back that one can forget the real and fleeting feelings when swayed or whipped back and forth in any relationship. These lines were stuck in rough draft poems later, and I'm finally dragging some out and tweaking them as I recount my old feelings here (one reason I sometimes grab the wrong copy as I save the tweaked ones). I'm encouraged to do that by someone who is determined not to hurt me. We came together when my health was very fragile, and me almost dead (yep, pits on looks), and have worked together to bring me back to health and happiness for both of us. Without him, literally, I'd be dead. So, take heart, because there IS someone out there who will love you. You just have to make it possible for him to find you, Tricia. THEN: it takes working at a relationship harder than anything else ever undertaken because we're human and good at hiding truth and real feelings far too long in attempts to protect ourselves even from those good for us. We've got that fight and flight syndrome down so well that we wreck relationships and run far too often. Folks often learn late they can have relationships along the way that are long-term friendships with a little lust. We don't have to have the all or nothing relationships that must be pseudo-killed to move to the next. Many old friends have moved back into those old friendship-lust relationships as they age and given them time to bloom into something far more. That guy who wants some gal's fortune isn't bad, he's had reasons for needing that. He may find he's wrong in going that direction (or they may be happy together); but passion and the desire for more comfort as we get older often battles it out in our heads. We learn to make it easier on ourselves to say we were wrong and move on, back or forward, and not play games because we finally understand what we didn't in youth about mortality--clock's ticking. Be happy with yourself. No matter how well, much and honestly you love, at some time or another you've be alone for one reason or another. Trust in laugh-lines, because we naturally gravitate to happy, smiling faces as old farts :) Again, thanks ..... Rennie
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

Alabama~ glad to see that you finally posted a few things! ;-) I liked them both... the last line in "questions in the dark" is great... and I loved the very candid "thighs part" (lol) in the other one. Fabulous. ~Vi 
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

So the part about thighs inspired me. :-) Thanks. 
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=220">wolfscreamer</a><BR>
Date: 14 May 2004<P>

Violet<BR>
<a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.05.12.00.45.24030">faded</a> <BR>
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I saved this.No more needs to be said.<BR>
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