| Misti | Chris always brings me magazines and candy bars. I surprised him with a book of poems written by New Mexico prisoners awhile back. We take a lot of mini road trips...Gallup, Canyon de Chelly, Santa Fe, Taos. Then there's always Hollywood Video and Tidal Wave Used Bookstore. I can't get him to take me bowling. He says it's too proletarian. The last time I sang karaoke was in Memphis when we both go so drunk that we drove the wrong way down a one way street. But nothing beats bowling and karaoke. Billiards is too humiliating. I always beat him. But Chris kicks my ass at air hockey. |
| Kirk | *Looks around at current double unemployment etc, considers*. Guess not. Though we did walk 45 minutes to the cinema to see Amelie again, rather than drive. That was kind of nice. |
| sweetness | He takes me downtown and lets me go to all the cute little shops I never find time to go to...the candy store with the best truffles in the world, the candle shop, all the new-age boutiques and best of all, the used record store! He hates to shop, so this is a huge sacrifice.....and for him, well, getting a sitter and spending the entire evening in bed is what does it for him. |
| somedaysoon | When my day has been really bass-askwards, to borrow a friend's phrase, he always seems to know, and gets me flowers... and we spend whatever time we have together in central park. when he's down(which doesn't seem to be all that often, i guess he's just better at hiding it than i am), i sit there an listen to him with my arms around his shoulders, and when he's done talking, a little kiss behind the ear usually makes him feel lots better... and then there's backrubs and all sorts of other good things.... |
| Rhetoric | I talk a lot. I ask lots of questions...maybe just to answer them myself. However, when this horrible thing happened to my dear, sweet boy - I shut up and let him talk. Most of the time he didn't, but I was listening to his every breath. I let him be the vulnerable one for a change. Not so much a surprise, but certainly special, and absolutely me at my best. |
| Jon | In highschool I used to work at a Bath and Body Works, they sell lotions, aromatheraphy products, candles...pretty much girl pampering stuff. Anyway, my friend who happens to own the local store now still gives me my 50% discount (it's only supposed to be 20% but shhh) and whenever my girlfriend is having a bad day I tell her to go try some imaginary item in my car (or whatever excuse I can think up) and when she returns I have the tub filled with hot water and bubbles, strawberry scented candles lit throughout the room and the bathroom and a few armoatherphy products in the tub waiting for her to enjoy. Then I usually sit on top of the toilet and listen as she tells me all of her problems. What does she do for me when the world isn't going so well? Sex... ;-) |
| Violet | When I feel overwhelmed, he has the best way of easing my mind. I lay next to him, with my head on his chest, and he wraps his arms around me. Then he asks me to list the things that are bothering me. He'll point to various objects around the room, assigning them as symbols for the various problems. He then address each object/problem (the lamp that represents too much school work etc...) and helps me think of things I can do to fix it. When my problems get organized like that, they seem smaller. And it's cute to see him point at the poster on the wall and say "And Dave Matthew's head there, you can fix that by simply telling *thelma* that what she did bothered you..." :-P It's adorable!! When he is feeling down, I try to provide my ears and shoulders and a warm embrace. I give him backrubs, massage his feet and run my fingers through his hair. |
| splatipus | When hes having a bad day I prance around the house singing silly made up songs that are so stupid he has to smile. When I'm having a bad day he buys me flowers and lets me rant and rave. When we're having quality time together we play our collection of drums and other musical instruments and probably annoy the neighbours |
| Caravan of Dreams | THAT question is worse than any madness that has ever swirled around my life...causing me..to...not able to ...think...air get...in...thin, ...can't can't...hhhhhhhhhhshsshshshshshshs...f!*bq^%#.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------(tell laura that that I lo--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
| Jennifer | Well, I guess I've thought about it long enough and since I'm playing it solo at the time I guess I'll just go with past experiences....When that certain someone is having a bad day I like to make him as comfortable as possible. I listen to what's bothering him as we snuggle together or I rub his back and shoulders. And I pretty much just spoil him, give him what he wants. LOL Anything to help him release his energy in a good way! |
| wordley | COLD CHAMPAGNE X WARM BATH.2 = HOT LOVE!!!!! |
| ~*Truelies*~ | Unexpected visits laden with his favourite white chocolate and a silly surprise pressie is what I usually do when he's feeling like the worlds a massive let down. Cuddle up in bed with plenty of hugs, long kisses and telling him he's the most important person in my world usually picks him up too. In return he lets me shout and scream and cry at him and then just hugs me before giving me an unexpected silly pressie. |
| jimmyallgrownup | Embrace the madness. |
| scqueen | I give him a manicure and a pedicure. Who'd a thunk? But it's just as pampering to a man. |