| Misti | Real men don't flirt. They deliver. I've fallen for more than a few expert flirts but they have always (without exception) failed miserably in the proverbial long run. When I was a kid my "vision of love" was Potsy Webber on "Happy Days," serenading Joanie with "Put Your Head On My Shoulder." As a woman, my vision of love is closer to John Wayne in "The Searchers." The older I get the less tolerance I have for bullshit. |
| jackryhme | hmmm well lol i love a good flirt, to me it shows an open mind as well as intelligence and to love a flirt? depends on the flirt, how they choose to flirt and the mind behind it all. and as fer being a man ... well my papa can beat your papa |
| Misti | Uh...okay. |
| wordley | If 'Flirtiness' means to fuck with, or make unsincere promises, or any other imagined inuendoes; however harmless you think they are, DON'T!!!..... The person you're making them to may think otherwise.... |
| wordley | Oh yeah, ...Jack...MY Papa craps bigger than YOURS!!!! |
| Madison | I think the idea of being chosen as a mark would send anyone running. Being a good flirt has more to do with how you make someone else feel than how you look or anything pathetically phony you might contrive. If a man makes me feel good nonverbally, or captures my attention verbally, and it’s sincere then flirt baby, flirt. Here’s a test just for fun: http://www.emode.com/emode/tests/flirtation2_switch.jsp |
| muryan | I'm not sure if I would fall in love with someone simply because they flirted with me. If I fell in love with every guy who flirted with me, I'd be in love with nearly every guy on campus. It takes a little seriousness to win me. Of course not to much, because I do tend to be drawn to goofy guys. Flirting is fun, and it can keep a relationship alive in a way, but sometimes, it's time to be serious. That's how I feel. And as for choosing me as their mark, if they chose me only that would be cool maybe we could build a relationship as time goes by. But it seems as though when a guy is not flirting with me, they are flirting with every other girl. So I need more than just mere flirtatious stimulation. |
| chris | Flirting is fine as long as the one doing it is sincere and not full of shit. Flirting without integrity is just plain goofy (as they say in Kountze, Texas). Now...if the black-haired character in "Ghost World" flirted with me, well, that'd be another story. (Use me! Use me! Please!) |
| Misti | I wouldn't mind bein' used by Mark McGrath. |
| Kirk | Sometimes I think a lot of normal friendly interaction can take the form of flirting. It doesn't have to be all serious or goal directed...I guess it's that a lot of the same interactions that mark us as an interesting person in general would also tend to promote ourselves as a potential romantic interest...unless you're thinking of flirting in the more "obviously testing the waters" kind of way, in which case...well, it's nice when two people can make their intentions known, without obligating the other side to follow through. So long as a person is purposefully flrting with *you* and isn't just a general casual heavy innuendo flirter, why not? |
| jackryhme | ya what kirk said and Wordly it may be so but lets please not get into the smell area of combat k? think my dads got that area sewed up tight wheeeww !!! |
| deevaa | Argyle and I got together because of flirtiness. He'd seen my xanga log and thought I was some arty farty freak and wasn't really interested in me, then emailed me, to which I emailed back with a touch of flirt, he topped my flirt and so the flirting begain.... after that, there was the flirty and fun phonecall. I wasn't interested in flirting to find me a man, and he wasn't looking for love either, we 'fell' into it. And flirting was the cliff top. LOL |
| Violet | Flirting is fun. |
| RennieLorca | Who knows what lurks ... lol ... I have written erotic or slightly romantic verses for years and have enjoyed comments on them. I have desired attention and also run from it. So, I have always been amazed at what some people see as "flirting" .. I once said nothing more than, "Nice tie, George" .. and he went home and cleaned out his bank account and told a wife and four kids he was leaving to go away with me. I should tell you I didn't even know his last name and had never flirted with him .. and wasn't then. So, Kirk, I have even hesitated for years in carefully saying, "Nice website, Kirk" .. ;-). Actually, I love lots of folks (liking some of them is a chore), but am devoted to one person. Flirting is a compliment, acknowledging it is another. Flirting makes men whistle and women sway a little more than they did to get the whistle in the first place .. even when they call the guys gorillas for it. Flirting is fun and testing unchartered waters, and often accepted for what it is in the test. Going beyond that skirts the edges into personal information and desires and can be unwanted attention. I've gone many years with men telling me they love me and flirting to make me smile. We've had great friendships and kept them that way. Love and passion are too often confused. "Love" means different things to different people. Ask them about passion, and passion and friendship. Listen for the stammer and watch them blush. Someone really wants you, they go far beyond flirting into feeling and showing great passion ... sometimes crimes of passion when they have chosen you as their mark. I see flirting only as the attempt, not the relationship maker or breaker unless there is immaturity. An opinion, but I can be swayed, maybe with the right tie OR smile at this point in life. |
| Nonitta | I don't think that True Love can be based only on the fact that a 'good flirter' has chosen you and has made you feel special. Love yes. Not True Love. It might take awhile to figure out, but in the end, you'll realize it for what it was. Infatuation. |