From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1113">echo</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

I noticed u mentioned the name echo-----well, oddly enough thats my first name....anyway, I know I'm not the echo you were talking about..nonetheless, I think u make a good point with "Rebel Jesus"
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=776">Walking Contradiction</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

To All,<BR>
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Geez, you certainly do give opinions freely don't ya? Bloody good thing too!!! Thank you everyone for your advice, and you're right, I should and will walk away. However much he says he's in a loveless marriage and what have ya I KNOW it will never be going anywhere so it's for the best. And I could never forgive myself for breaking up a marriage.<BR>
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Thank you all,<BR>
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Wlkin C -x-
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Come on Teej, let's see here, well obviously both are wrong and there is no popularity contest, only like my mother used to say if you lie its a sin  the sames sin as killing someone ha YEAH RIGHT. Let's leave the religion out of this and just say there's a difference in lack of judgement for four days and breaking up an entire marriage.<BR>
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bk
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1040">empyrean</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Misti - Just got a chance to read <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2003.01.26.14.32.31805">Bio In D Minor</a>  - i LOVE it!!! Keep up the great work!<BR>
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~empy~
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">tj holland</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

So then the end justifies the means? If the same action is done, but the result is different, (ie: the marriage does or does not break up) then the action is or is not okay? Sorry, I don't agree with that. But we're all entitled to our opinion.<BR>
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(and guys, it wasn't really 'religion' I was spouting. Society USED to take these things seriously. The word 'God' may be repulsive to some, and a scripture that was used for every day living may rankle others, but there once was a place in people's lives for certian standards and principles.)<BR>
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Peace,<BR>
-Teej <BR>

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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=10">galadrial</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

your cheating heart...ala the blender.<BR>
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I know a local man who cheats as easy as breathing.<BR>
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The fact that he is married to a woman who would remove his stun gun faster than you can say "ginsu" does not impede him.<BR>
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The fact that he is catholic doesn't seem to slow him down.<BR>
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The fact that her father is mob connected, and they will never find the body, doesn't stop him.<BR>
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For years, he went "shopping" in January...for a new chick. By February, they are in deep. He loves girls in their 20's, and will explain that they "understand the deal" when it begins. He isn't leaving his wife, he loved his kids...yadda yadda.<BR>
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Then in November he breaks it off. No need to go christmas shopping---or risk a call at a "family" moment.<BR>
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I'm pretty damned sure not a single one of his targets "understood the deal". BUT...you are gambling when you put your chips on someone else's table...so you're not in a position to squak if you lose.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=10">Galadrial</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Ok ladies and gents...<BR>
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I just did a count---looks like 9 entries for the contest so far...and for a new wrinkle, just under the wire, we will allow multiple entries if anyone wants tp give it a whirl. The deadline is up to Kirk the Kahuna...who may not want to futz with this after he sets up the February Blender. So let's assume the same deadline for January admissions, if you want in!<BR>
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Kirk...whatcha think, Big Guy?<BR>
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My thanks to you all...they are SPLENDID! And yes, there's still some time..
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=2">scqueen</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

I see BK's still taking those vitamins :-)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Hahahahahahah, Yep, Flintstone Vitamins for EVERYONE!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=2">scqueen</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Misti ~ <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2003.01.26.14.32.31805">Bio In D Minor</a> I am constantly amazed at how many ways you can write about your past. I never get tired of the same story, because you capture it in so many ways. <BR>
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Just Another Fan (ha!)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=2">scqueen</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Oh, and Madi ~ My New Year's Resolution was to learn something new every day and reflect on it at the end of the day. So today, you taught me a different word - 'glissando'. So, thank you and the poem was great too :-)<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=35">Star of David</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Elocution,<BR>
You thanked me for writing it<BR>
and I thank you for liking it<BR>
and for the compliments :)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1005">ExBestFriend</a><BR>
Date: 27 January 2003<P>

Walking COntradicton,<BR>
Never, never, ever go for it if you can stop yuorself instead. I have "been there, done that" and the man in question loved me very very much and was willing to divorce her.<BR>
He even told her and his entire family how he feels for me but trust me, it kills your soul and it will come back to you. I firmly believe that what goes around comes around and it will.<BR>
I am not trying to scare you or say there's a higher power that will pay us back for what we do - what I mean is, it will come around in a way which will never let you trust him 100%; a way in which you will always wonder if he's comparing and wondering; it will leave you constantly thinking if he shared the same thing with her (married her, didn't he?); whether there will be another you and another you and another you...<BR>
You will be guilt ridden and will neevr sleep easy if you let this happen.<BR>
But if it is love, then thank God you found love but don't try to own that love by causing pain to another. Move away and tell him to make the decisions. Or else, it may be thrown back in your face later. Trust me on this one.<BR>
You will suffer inside if you give in to this. The fact that you actually asked this question means you knwo there are options - it's not like you simply cannot live without him - so use your head and think deeply. And go for it only and only if you are 100% sure and can justify it to yourself otherwise, wave goodbye. It's easy to give in and it's harder to say no. This is not about giving in or saying no - it's about doing what's best. Not even what's right - we dont always do what's right - do what's best in the long run and think, think, think. And if you believe in God, pray.<BR>
Whichever way things work out, I hope you will be smiling and happy in the end.
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