From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=17">deevaa</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

I'm away from computers, telephones and 4yr old sons for the next 5 days....<BR>
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try not to miss me too much *snicker*<BR>
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take care of your hearts.<BR>
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dee
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=29">~Harem~</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

To Aqua Lady ~<BR>
I am sorry to hear that you were one of (unchained) Dark Angel's victims.  But in all honesty, I was NOT one of his victims..... I have had previous experience with men like him, before he came along..... So I sensed the falsity, right from the start....  I never told him that I loved him, and I never gave him the parts of me that he wanted so badly.... that is why it did not last more than six days... because, I would not give him what he wanted.... And I am so proud and happy of that..... I knew he was lying to me from the very first words that he uttered to me.... When he directed me to the loveblender, to read the poems he had written for me.... I refused to.... but he kept badgering me.... and litterally had me logon to the blender, while he sat next to me....  When I saw a beautiful poem written for me and about me.... right next to a nasty poem that he wrote for the lady he dumped two days before meeting me (Scorpion She), I knew immediately that he was a game player.... I never took another of his words seriously..... Although he got to meet my kids....I had already told them that I thought he was playing games.... after meeting him, they agreed,.... especially because he made sexual advances to my daughter,.... and was bragging to my sons about his conquests,,,, and telling dirty jokes to them, which I felt was terrible.... Also, he lied to me, the first day we talked, telling me he was living with his sister,... which turned out to NOT be his sister..... but a woman who obviously loved him.... and was giving him a place to stay, and feeding him, and washing his clothes, and treating him like a king...... and all the while, he was talking about her behind her back to me.... putting her down, and making fun of her..... I knew that he was no good.....  I also knew that he was already involved with you..... while he was still seeing me..... He generally is involved with at least three women at a time (or more).... when he was seeing you.... he was trying to get back with me.... He even told me your name, etc., etc.....He also told me that while he was making love to you.... in his heart he was calling out to me..... Yeah Right !!!  And now, he is sending me correspondence from other women that he is involved with at the present and in the near past.... betraying them..... He as sent me about eight e-mails from eight different women, here on the blender.  And each one thinks that he has an exclusive thing going for them..... If only they knew.... and not to mention the women on other sites that he is also involved with..... Quite a player for sure...... <BR>
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~ 
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=29">~Harem~</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

To Aqua Lady ~<BR>
Ok,,,,  I must confess..... In all honesty.....<BR>
You had wished that someone would burn him,,,, as he was burning all his other victims, including you.<BR>
I have a strange suspicion that I might have done just that.<BR>
It sounds very conceited on my part....  but I think it may be true.<BR>
When I realized right from the start, that he was a game player..... I allowed myself to watch and enjoy his antics, quite amusedly..... and I did cuddle and kiss with him....<BR>
but that only drove him crazy..... he tried every trick in his book to get me.... to seduce me..... to make me fall for him.... to make me believe him..... to get me to say that I loved him..... but I never would do it......<BR>
Not eight months ago...... nor recently..... when we went out on a few dates ...... he said that I was the most stubborn woman that he had ever known.... and likened me to Kathryn Hepburn......(I was not flattered).... But I am just one of those people.... who can stand firm even in a hurricane.... if I feel like that is the right thing to do or not to do...... My gut instinct, just would not let me give in..... But I did hug him and kiss him recently .... and I drove him bonkers....  And isn't it always what a person can't have, what they can't conquer..... that is what they want the most......<BR>
In the past eight weeks..... he has begged me on his knees....cried a bucket of tears..... given me a ring......(which I still have).... and thrown some pretty awful temper tantrums..... and even threatened suicide - to try and get me..... but I never gave in....  I stood firm....<BR>
I watched him and listened to him...... but felt nothing....<BR>
And so your wish may have already come true.....<BR>
you just never know.....  But I figure he was only faking, and that he just deserved an "Academy Award" for his brilliant acting, and brilling poems.....<BR>
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~
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=10">Galadrial</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Wow...<BR>
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       Now I know why I don't watch soap operas. <BR>
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       Interesting...that people can fail to distinguish between sympathy, empathy, and what might actually be love. At another site I post to, a gentleman is putting in poetry that sounds strongly suicidal. It disturbed me, so I mailed him---with just the intent of saying "Hey fellow human---you ok?" It doesn't answer everything---but sometimes when you are scared or hurting, it enough to get you to the next day. And things look different again.<BR>
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       As far as love is concerned? Well, I make my coffee in a stainless steel pot on my stove...and boil it. Joe Di<BR>
Maggio convinced people this was a mistake 20 years ago, and we choked down some vile pee water ever since. Instant coffee sucks...instant anything is barely worth the thirty seconds you put into making it. (Instant grits....ewwwww!) I used a line once in a story...Instant is NEVER real.<BR>
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                                         So Says Gala
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=29">~Harem~</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

To Gala ~<BR>
I love sayings.....<BR>
especially when they are full of wisdom....<BR>
I loved the one you shared with us :<BR>
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    " Instant is NEVER real. "  <BR>
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I think you said it all here.... So True !!!!!<BR>
A wisdom packed message, If I ever saw one !!!<BR>
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This one is sure worth remembering!<BR>
Thanks for sharing....<BR>
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~<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=372">Jubal29717</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Here is another wise saying, though not so poetically put, regarding the sensibility of letting time take it's course in the matter of love and relationships..."Good things are worth waiting for". If someone is bent on rushing into your life unwilling to let things marinate awhile, disaster usually is in the wings.  And let us all remember that once that magical someone has entered your life and heart to cherish every moment! (And be sure to write some great poetry about it for the Blender). Have a great weekend all. 
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=217">Zero #1</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Gala & Harem <BR>
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I was browsing over blender comments, and just happened to spy by the message of instant is NEVER real....that kinda hit me by surprise. I guees just cuz I don't really agree.<BR>
 (don't get me wrong, I do about the grits and stuff! yuck!)<BR>
But on the subject of love, I see instant love as real (I'm a love at first sight believer) but I don't believe that instant committment is. I think that's such a big problem these days. Most people mistake love for committment. <BR>
You can love someone and NEVER be committed to them in a relationship. <BR>
 I think it's kinda funny you two were talking about this. It's sorta along the same lines of the advice I was giving my friend the other day at work. <BR>
You two keep it real (not instant)  *grits,,blah*<BR>
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Zero #1
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

I believe in instant attraction... instant infatuation... but i see love as an emotion developed over time. You love someone when you know them, and can appreciate them for who they are. You can't instantly know somone, at least not the "real" person... so therefore, i do not believe in love at first sight. However,I personally, really like instant oatmeal. And there is my small pocket of spare change. ;-)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=217">Zero #1</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Violet<BR>
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I really like what you said about infatuation. <BR>
The only reason I believe in love at first sight,,,is because<BR>
love knows no boundaries, it has no limits, it has no color, no smell, no taste. It's an emotion of timing. when it happens, it happens. It doesn't take into account of human life, what job you have, etc. <BR>
From there, I believe the process of getting to know someone makes that love deeper and solidifies itself. <BR>
 (but there are no guarantees, the way I see it, it's all about timing!)<BR>
  Infatuation is a feeling of the moment. Getting over infatuation takes time, say like getting to know someone, that can get rid of it. <BR>
But not love. Love only fades with time. It never wholly disappears. And if it does,,,,it was never love in the first place. <BR>
 Gosh I hope this doesn't spurr on an apocalypic episode of hate/hate/hate stuff. It's my opinion. How does everyone else see it? <BR>
 (hmm....very interesting!!! =))<BR>
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*thanx for the post violet!)<BR>
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Zero #1
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=217">Zero #1</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Tangerine~~~ I really like 'Bin Laden'. Maybe if people knew more about Islam then they wouldn't live in such fear. <BR>
 lol I just loved the poem! lol It really fits the moment!<BR>
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*claps and stands*<BR>
Zero #1
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=396">Tangerine</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

To Zero#1 ~<BR>
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I can be instantly attracted to someone....<BR>
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But for me love takes time....<BR>
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To me love is something you feel that is beyond the physical, sexual, attraction...<BR>
It is being attracted to the deep inner person of their heart... and that requires knowing them... which takes time.<BR>
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I guess we are all different...<BR>
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~
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=23">Kirk</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Not to be confusing my feelings about Tangerines with people named Tangerine, but in my citrus exploration (trying to get more fruits and veggies in my life) I discovered that I don't like Tangerines very much.  Too many seeds and too tart.<BR>
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Just thought I'd share. So far I only really dig navel oranges (around here they tend to be seedless) even though they can be difficult to peel.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=396">Tangerine</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

To Kirk ~<BR>
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I don't like tangerines either !!!!<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

I really like those blood oranges... you guys know what i am talking about? Yum. :-)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Ah Kev; I get asymmetric conflict for dinner every time I sit down with my son lately. Though, if you see it on the menu, I don't recommend it. ha                         <BR>
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bk
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=268">Misti</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

personally, i prefer tangelos
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=8">Ali</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

moonkssd~<BR>
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Your submission was great...Please, keep posting...=)<BR>
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Love and light, Ali
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Misti~ I love <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2001.10.19.19.32.24894">Merle</a> ! Great Writing!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=10">galadrial</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

Kev you've been bumped---MORE than bumped....Wow Max...cool beans!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=5">jackryhme</a><BR>
Date: 19 October 2001<P>

lol like any of you truly have a choice... love will hit and hit hard and NONE of you really lol have a choice who it will be, love HAS color, scent, feel, motion, area,  mass... you name it it has it lol. And any one who thinks they can pick or choose lol snicker  heh have fun tryin....<BR>
P.S.  who said being human was easy?<BR>
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                                   love<BR>
                                   jack
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