From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=933">RainbowChaser</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Kase---Thanks for all your praises, I will definitely read some of your poetry, this started as an outlet, but now i've learned so much. Thanks for all your kind words, I'm glad that my words could actually be of some help to someone, it sucks that you have to go through that to be strong.  I do much better with sad poems, just like sad songs have the power to inspire, to even make you happy in a wierd sense.  You all are so wonderful, thanks for all your hind words. Kase-I'm printing out your words to inspire me when i'm down. Thanks for all the positive input..you all are wonderful..Keep the sad poems coming:)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=933">RainbowChaser</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

To the question have i ever hurt someone..yes, hasn't everyone.  I hurt my first real boyfriend by staying with him longer than i should. And i always believe that God is punishing me for him, but I didn't mean to hurt him, i really didn't. I was naive and stupid, but I punished myself for so long because i would rather be hurt than hurt someone else.  I've also hurt another one of my boyfriends..in my poem.if i could go back, tells how i kept my boyfriend from my family to protect both of us, but he couldn't accept that. I was never able to forgive myself for either of these two men until now..because they ended up hurting me as well. I think sooner or later you realize that life is a series filled with pain, sometimes you receive, sometimes you give. No matter how silly it may sound, I don't believe i've ever truly intended to hurt someone, but i have, and when i'm especially down, i rehash it in my mind..how sad is that?  anyone else do that?
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1050">Kase</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

I think everyone has hurt somebody.  I hurt someone very special once, my first "real" love, and we broke it our.  We met again 6 years later when he and his wife split up and my ex-husband and I split up.  The reunion was bitter-sweet.  We fell back into a pattern together, as though we'dnever been apart, and had one great month together.  Then we parted was, for all the right reasons we had.  I can now look bak on him with no regrets or remorse.  All was forgiven in one shared look.  I' thankful that I got the chance to make ammends, because that one month together was MMMMM and I'll always look back with love and fondness at the memories we created in our short reunion.  I can now stop looking back and the "what ifs" vacated my mind.  Forgiveness makes you feel human again after even the worst mistake.  Thank goodness for the capabilty to forgive. (Sorry, I got nostalgic for a minute there:)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=933">RainbowChaser</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Kase-I used to do that. I would always say what if, but recently I realized that i have this horrible pattern of fixating on the past when i'm with a great guy, and its an endless cycle...life gives you what is meant to happen. Right now, I have a wonderful man, and I messed up, but he gave me another chance for all the times I've given others another chance.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1038">Blue</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

RainbowChaser: I pray for your health and well being.<BR>
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I feel that you need to take things one day at a time and avoid extremes now... I hope that no matter you are safe from the dangers of love's ups and downs.<BR>
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Please remember that first of all, you are alive for you.<BR>
Always be thankful for you no matter how happy or sad lifes folds and paths may draw out around you and tease it's way into your heart...  sometimes you just have to laugh.  May laughter and happiness fill your life NOW and FOREVER.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1038">Blue</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

mysteriousone07: your writing is remarkable... keep up good work.  mostly, your mysterious writing made me think: "wow!  what is going on?!".  it really is mysterious to me.<BR>
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Thank you and many blessings.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1058">Chances are</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

OK... I left a line out of a poem (Stalemate - last line of 2nd last stanza 'Signed sealed delivered... ' line appears in quotes as it should read). Idiot! If someone could please tell me what to do in order to fix this, I'd appreciate it. (That is, apart from check my work more carefully - tricky when you're on a writing binge and keen to get it posted!)  ; ) <BR>
In the very short time I've been here, I've found it to be more than helpful (what an inadequate way to say it!) to get my feelings out in prose/poetry and also to read others' work. More satisfying than hiding your light under a bushel, so to speak.<BR>
We all have our feelings - some poems are absolutely brilliant and I believe all are wonderful in their own way. I really enjoyed 'Succulent' by B.K. A very amusing case of reality.  : )
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1058">Chances are</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

oh, yeah... the poem - 'Stalemate' ... doh!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1040">empyrean</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

In response to the question posted - I have hurt someone before.  I'm sure many people have, not that thats a reason to make it all ok or less easier on anyone!  Anyway I broke his heart because I think I was not what he needed... he wanted more and it was not something I was able to offer him.  I felt awful and beat myself up that I could do that to someone.  That was quite a few years ago, I've spoken to him since and we're both fine now.  At the time it was pretty traumatic though, but all ultimately for the best.<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=16">kevin urenda</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Jon-<BR>
Congratulations, indeed!  Excellent news!<BR>
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Kirk-<BR>
took a needed mental break (a.k.a. matinee lunch)  from too much grind yesterday afternoon to check out the film you recommended from November's Feature (There is an 'art house' a couple of blocks from where I work)...  <BR>
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I'm still absorbing, but I find myself in agreement with your take.  I do think some of the complexity of the romantic relationship (for instance, the scene where Ed tells Lee that they 'can't do this' 24/7 and she responds with "Why not?") gets glossed over, going from A to E while skipping B, C, and D.  But for me the ending still *did* work...
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=801">Bridget O</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Zero Love~ to answer your question, yes i think i hurt people to much, actually. i hurt brad by staying with him too long and then breaking it off too late. i hurt the one i love right now by breaking up with him for someone else, and now i realize how much i love him and need him back, so i had to hurt the guy i brought in the middle of it. but we're going to get back together sooner or later. oh man i really am mean, i just re-read that! but i find that talkign about the things that hurt us with the people we love can help. and its hard to talk about emotions with some peopel but we have to do it. that was a good question! sorry my answer is so long winded.<BR>
Your Perfect Fan;) <BR>
~bridget
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=8">Ali</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Jon!<BR>
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Congrats!!! *smiles*  I am happy for you! :)<BR>
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Love and falling fascinations, Ali
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=220">wolfscreamer</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Jon<BR>
Marriage proposal fabulous news my friend,but if I see another depressing poem from you I,m afraid I,m gonna have to kill ya......... JOKE HONEST  great news Jon both of you keep smiling.  
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=660">Vishal</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Jon, congratulations man, what amazing news. Wish you all the best.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Amen to what eveyone else has said Jon, CONGRATULATIONS!<BR>
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bk
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=717">zero love</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

congrats jon and with news like that i don't think u could have waited intill christmas.<BR>
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good luck <BR>
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ZeRo LoVe
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=706">splatipus</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Jon - BIG FAT CONGRATS!!!!! Thats fabulous news. Had she any idea you were going to propose? Its cool that you did it before Christmas, cos now you get to introduce her as 'My Fiance' at all the christmas parties.<BR>
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Zero Love - I think you've got me mixed up with someone else. I didnt write 'If she found out'. I looked on the Blender search and cant find who did either.<BR>
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I hear you guys in the States are snowed in. I'm very jealous, its cold and damp here. I love it when it snows and it can be so romantic, snow-ball fights, log fires, mulled wine, snuggling up in woolly-jumpers and all that.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=436">Jon</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Thank you everyone! You all brought a smile to my face, thank you. <BR>
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Well I can't remember who asked what questions, so, I'm just going to answer lol. We've always talked about marriage, and we always knew that one day we would get engaged we just didn't know when(Well, she didn't). I tried my best to surprise her and be spontanaous about the whole thing, but her friends kept hinting at a "Megaton announcement" near the end of the year so she had a few ideas of what I was going to do.<BR>
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And no we don't plan on having any kids anytime soon. Heh like I said we need to start making tons of mullah before we even think of bringing a child into this world and besides I sort of want to have a few years with just the two of us before she starts popping those kids out. Anyway if any Blenderites live in the Southern California area or don't mind making the road trip you are all invited to attend the wedding, which mind you, isn't for another two to three years but hey consider this an invitation in advance lol.<BR>
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Take care and all that luv-ya-guys/gals stuff<BR>
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-Jon
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Kirk~ I would just recommend that it be spaced out from the 'add message" and those other buttons.  ya know, on the other side of the page or something.  Lol... am I the only idiot with this problem?<BR>
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Ali and Gala~ As George Clooney's biggest fan, I must tell you, I am willing to beat you both away from him with a stick.  :-P  Did you see solaris?  It was damn fantastic... and you get to see his lovely bum! I am lucky enough to have his autograph... maybe someday his children. ha ha Just kidding!  I swear, I'm only half serious.  
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Jon~ congrats!!  How exciting.  I am getting married this July, and it's very chaotic and fun, getting wrapped up in all the planning.  What sort of rock did you give her?  You two are probably both on cloud nine. :-) So sweet. Best Wishes. ~Vi
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=933">RainbowChaser</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Inspiring words, thanks for all your kind words and thoughts. Sometimes it so easy to get wrapped up in life's ups and downs, and sometimes its hard to remember what being happy feels like. I did write a happy poem, but i don't feel i can express happiness as well as i can sadness.  I'm doing great now, i'm in a transformation period of my life and it feels wonderful.<BR>
Jon-I only wish my man and I were as lucky as y'all. Marriage is a beautiful thing, as is love, which I have no doubts.  Sometimes this world is so cynical about love, but love doesn't lie, it just doesn't follow our expectations.  Love comes from the heart, not the head.  The romantic sees that, but the cynic doesn't.  Which is why 9/10 times the romantic falls in love deeper, quicker, and truer while the cynic searches in vain.  Just a thought..sorry to ramble =)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=933">RainbowChaser</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Violet--what is your interpretation of solaris..i wrote a poem about it because it touched me so deeply. A bit slow, but the end message was DYNAMITE=)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=8">Ali</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

violet~<BR>
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A friend of mine actually met George once.  And apparently he's even sexier in person--and the nicest guy.  *smile*  <BR>
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I haven't seen Solaris yet--but I'm gonna go see it soon.  :)<BR>
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Love and falling fascinations, Ali
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">tj holland</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

Kirk ~ I am pretty dim when it comes to computer stuff so this question may not be valid, but I was wondering if it's possible to add a "search by title" button (with an intelligent default) to the site search so we can look up the name of a poem (or parts of the name) when we can't remember who wrote it? <BR>
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Jon ~ all new loves are of infinite value. you are a rich man. amid all the congrats and kudos, i will add mine. and to it i will say...love is an action, not an emotion. remember that and nurture a beautiful thing! <BR>
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Deep Peace of the Gentle Earth to You<BR>
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-Teej
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">tj holland</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

jimmyallgrownup ~ leamas must've really pulled a wedgie on your panties, huh? all wanting to kiss him under the mistletoe and all. Awwwwww! How cute!!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1058">Chances are</a><BR>
Date: 7 December 2002<P>

I am a newby and don't know how long I'm staying but: Maybe there could be an FAQ for guidelines for newbies in submitting work, e.g., please check so you don't accidentally take the title of someone else's work (I didn't mean to, but I realised scrolling through that someone else had written a poem 'us' in the recent new submissions. Feel a bit embarrassed by this, even though, given the subject matter, it's probably a common enough title.)<BR>
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The search by title would be great, because then we could check this sort of thing out - maybe it wouldn't matter if another poem was a few months old? Or if we feel that genuinely the title still belonged on our poem (without detracting from someone else's work) it wouldn't matter?
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