From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1">Kirk, Blender-Keeper</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Chris, Misti--<BR>
You've both kind of had the chance to "have your say" with me trying to play a bit of an equal opportunity "common carrier" role.  Probably it was a bit of a mistake to have the Blender ramble be a sounding board for exes, to get in the middle of it at all, but hey.  <BR>
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Anyway, the blender would be lessened if either of you decided to split. I appreciate both the works and forum talk from both of you.<BR>
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Chris, though, "Don't you think it's kind of creepy for an ex to still be this fixated on someone they divorced more than a year ago?"  I dunno. A year after my own divorce, and 1 1/2 after pretty much the seperation, and there are aspects of it that still occupy parts of my mind, though it not the same as not moving on. 
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1511">sassy</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Thanks for the front page picks!!!!<BR>
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All the divorce talk makes me sad...I got divorced 9 years ago, and I can tell you that it takes years to get over the anger, disappointment and heartache that accompany a divorce.  Even when you know you are not meant to be together, there is something about splitting up that makes you feel like a monumental failure.  It makes you think that the happiness you went into the marriage with was all a lie.  It makes you miss the good times and wonder what you did wrong.  It makes you hate the other person for not being happy with you. And especially when one or both parties move on with someone else soon after, it makes the unfinished business loom large sometimes.  No one wants their ex to get over them so fast.  <BR>
That said, 9 years later I am able to be friends with my ex.  (We have children).  I no longer feel any of the pain or resentment I felt when we split, and we aren't angry at each other at all anymore. He's actually one of my best friends now.   It just takes time.  And there's no right or wrong timetable for anger and hurt, I don't think.<BR>
Chris and Misti, I wish you both well and I hope you both stick around!!!!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=254">chris</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Yeah, I hear what you're saying, Kirk (great digest, btw). I guess I should have been more specific. I meant fixated in a negative way, as in "my ex is a bastard so I'm going to post personal info on him on as many websites as I can" - when there's no earthly reason for it. (Is there ever?!) Thanks for the kind words, sassy...
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=23">Kirk</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Hmm...I wonder what is triggering GoogleAds putting a bunch of Christian meida ads on the frontpage?
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=254">chris</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

I have no idea. Feel like I'm back in Texas. ;)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1606">naturalbornkillerblonde</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Kirk, OMG!! OMG!!OMG!! I am honored & speechless that I made the front page.  me??!!  Who'd a thunk it?...
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1">Kirk, Blender-Keeper</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Well, my pleasure, I liked the work, felt very real.  <BR>
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Are you "mae", btw?
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Chris; I'm glad you had your say and I think you did a nice job of it. I hope one day you and Misti can get beyond this, just remember the good times, and I hope you both stay and continue to write here.<BR>
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Kirk; Thank you kindly for the pick, Tis always a joy to see one of your own creations front page at the Blender of Love <BR>
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Congratulations to everyone! Keep up the good work.<BR>
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bk<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=2">scqueen</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Jon ~ I think <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2005.07.11.09.02.7276"><i>Untitled</i></a> deserves a title!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

ScQueens right Jon <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2005.07.11.09.02.7276"><i>Untitled</i></a> is wonderful and deserves a title. (Thanks for sharing it with us)<BR>
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bk<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1103">ladyinwaiting</a><BR>
Date: 11 July 2005<P>

Congrats to all the front page picks...yeppie...job well done...
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