From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1120">Chances</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Kirk - thoughts on the ramble... yeah, you're probably right to take things slowly, but (being a Kisrael reader) that's one hot chicky you're dating.   : )   That aside, if you know what you want, you're in a better position to set ground rules with dates (without needing to be so explicit) about what your expectations are, i.e., that you may continue to see other people because you're not yet in a serious relationship with them. Don't know if any of that helps or not... my husband was the only man I seriously dated and we met when I was 18, so I may be way off the mark.<BR>
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With regard to your comment about rhythm on the pick (thankyou)... rhythm is one thing I don't make time for when I write a poem - I rhyme most poems and count the syllables, mainly because it gives me the sense that I 'wrote a poem' and 14 lines makes it sonnet-like and ten syllables is what Shakespeare did  : )  . Anyway, if you found an unusual rhythm, that's great. The next one may even be intentional!!!<BR>
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Congrats to all the front pagers.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1139">jwb71913</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

What a friendly message board!  Love the October Digest Kirk.  Like Rennie, I wear my blender shirt often (I wound up with two as a result of my latest romantic fiasco).  Thanks for the update on Rennie BK.  The muse has been whacking me about the head and shoulders, but I've been too busy to sit and write, job and parenthood and politics being what they are these days.  Jim
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1176">aparajita</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

WOW!!  thanks kirk!!  i feel so special today!  :)<BR>
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congrats to all the front pagers.<BR>
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lady:  thanks for the well wishes all around.  i absolutely can not wait to go to the norah concert!<BR>
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bk:  you will never believe that rennie was actually on my mind last nite as i was driving home from work.  (see kirk, the blender is always there, even in my car, hmmm, maybe i need a life???!)  i was wondering where she was and if she and the captain were living out a romantic dream as i'd hoped.  thanks so much for the update.  i also miss her presence, wit, and wisdom here.  next time you have the chance to speak with her please please tell her 'love ya, miss ya, mean it' from me.<BR>
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kirk:  i agree that aging makes one more reluctant to date.  when i was in my teens and 20's i was invinsible in the dating arena.  i could wine, dine and dance away whatever disappointments there were.  heartache in my 30's that has seemingly lasted forever (i will soon be 42) has made me not only very reluctant to go there again, but, less willing to put up with crap and people that play crappy games.  it seems that dating to most folks regardless of age is just a game.  i refuse to play.  lonely? yes, but a helluva lot safer.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1176">aparajita</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

kirk: sorry, i meant to also tell you i loved the ramble.  it is good.  and, on kisrael, i also like it there when you ramble, seems to be less manufactured when you do.  just an observation.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=23">Kirk</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Aparajita--<BR>
You mean, the kisrael rambles seem less manufactured than the blender rambles?  I believe that. I kind of had to force it, a little, and I try to write to a stricter style when doing something for the Blender.<BR>
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Sometimes I wonder if the Blender ramble/review went away, at least in terms of being a monthly feature, if anyone would miss it all that much...
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=872">cryingshame58</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Congrats to all the front pagers for the month of October...<BR>
Kirk, your page is always worth waiting for and I appreciate your time and energy to make it the success that it is..<BR>
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BK, thanks for the update on Rennie...tell her i keep her in my thoughts and prayers...miss her wise words...<BR>
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aparajita...so you are having a birthday! lets party! maybe some day i can meet you and ladyinwaiting...i posted to Jim on the political board i will be at caddo gap next weekend (15th)...if the river is up i will be canoeing...<BR>
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Spirial...your writing "often times" has made me blush but not saying that is a bad thing...all good--on the brief and biased of Jon's...<BR>
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Ladyinwaiting...i am like you that i like this site...hope you will submit soon because i can usually relate to you...<BR>
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Jim...about now we could probably all giggle from one of your limericks...even one on the political board would be grand!<BR>
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Happy freaky friday...or to those with romantic ideas...happy frisky friday!<BR>
CS58<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1509">hollywoodfox</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Congrats to all on the front page this month!<BR>
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Kirk- Thanks again for letting me be a part of this great site. I am here several times a day, it's something I always look forward to. If you're ever looking for assistance in spreading the word and garnering more traffic for the Blender, let me know. I'd be more than happy to help out. <BR>
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Best wishes to all, have a great weekend!<BR>
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~hollywoodfox
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=872">cryingshame58</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

dana,<BR>
thanks for the email update and it's great that you submitted something today...hang in there...you are having your winter a bit early, but hey maybe you will have an early spring...everything is gonna be okay...forge ahead...and remember i am here with added support...this community loves you...kiss the children for me and look at all the joy in their eyes...they will help you get where you need to be...<BR>
love always,<BR>
CS58
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Kirk; Don't get rid of the ramble just yet. I think eveyone of us that are regulars should take a turn and do it for you...(I'm going to get in trouble for this one ha)<BR>
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You all; Rens sounds soooooooooo happy. It was just incredible to hear her voice. I had missed our conversations. I think we all must have been thinking of her at once. She's such a special person to all of us and we will be keeping in touch. <BR>
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bk
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1189">darwin</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

kirk don't you dare touch it! <BR>
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and here's my take on the whole dating/casual thing.  I think sometimes your mind is able to seperate the physical from the emotional.  sometimes.  somedays you just want to feel someones skin and you'll do just that, and never talk to them again.  but i think as we get older we realize that we want a bit more substance in our lives, and direct that toward more of an emotional bond, and less of a physical bond.  but it's great when you can get both.  and i am of the school of thought that sex doesn't equal intimacy.  and i think when you find that right intimacy, the type that matches your own intimacy, you find a reason not to go anywhere....and casual is just that, you know that you can only be satisfied momentarily, and you know that you will wander. <BR>
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i'm sure out of that jumble of sentences, you can ascertain it's meaning...right??<BR>
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and you love my work!  love!  yeah!  i'm gonna go kick my heals together now...<BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=8">Ali</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Congrats to all the Front Pagers!!!!  Wonderful job, everyone!!! :)<BR>
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Kirk~<BR>
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Thank you ever so kindly for the honor!  You've completely made my day! *huge smile*<BR>
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Love and sweet surrender, Ali
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=1176">aparajita</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

spirial:  <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.10.08.13.51.1605">Blush...?</a> YUM!  i liked this very much.  and, i've read <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.10.03.19.18.20951">Tamed</a> over and over and it still makes me sigh.  i like your style.<BR>
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bk:  <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.10.07.23.51.31670">Love Knots</a> is going to be one of my all time ever favs.<BR>
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darwin:  i have wanted to comment on <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.10.01.13.52.14043">autumn in my heart </a> so many times.  yet, i find i still don't know what to say that would do justice to how very much i enjoyed this piece.  nothing clever will come.  i identified with so many of your words.  i am at once awed by it and envious that the author is not me.  i can only aspire to write that well someday...  thank you for sharing this with us.  i want to save and savor this for a long while.<BR>
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wolfscreamer:  <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2004.10.01.12.17.26654">Ohio tears  </a> GREAT BIG HUGS to you.  kisses too, if ya want 'em.  :)<BR>
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cs58:  pam, yep, it is happening again!  GO LIBRAS!!  (where is misty when i need a cheerleader anyhow??)  i'd like it very much if we girls (inclusive of lady) could get together and hang for a while.  i imagine we'd have much to talk about and share.  someday soon???  we should make a pact to really try and not just talk about it.  too many days are slipping away with that long list of 'things to do before i croak' just gathering dust, ya know?<BR>
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kirk:  my comment about manufactured was for kisrael.  just a friendly observation that i hope doesn't bruise.  i read it every day that i can get near a computer (traveling sometimes creates obstacles).  it seems to me that when you do personal rambles there the day's read is less manufactured feeling.  <BR>
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=436">Jon</a><BR>
Date: 8 October 2004<P>

Congrats to all the front pagers, another excellent issue as usual Kirk.  The Blender is a wonderful place you've created, and I've always wondered what inspired you to create this site?<BR>
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-Jon
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