| Kirk | In theory, no. In practice, yes. And I think heartbreak is an important part of the human experience. I don't think I ever could have understood "The Great Gatsby" without having a big unrequited love...that's why I didn't "get it" in highschool. |
| NMDionysus | To care passionately for another human creature brings always more sorrow than joy, but one would not be without that experience. |
| ~Harem~ | Does anyone really know what love is? Is there a definition that works for all ? Love isn't tangible. It evade description, and reminds one of air, which is invisible, but felt, it's tasteless, and yet sought after, it's priceless, but so expensive to the greiving heart. Can you capture the wind ? Can you grasp the air that flows through your fingers. I have been married four times and divorced three times - and I can honestly say that I don't know what love is exactly. I can say that I made mistakes in my decisions and perceptions of those that I thought I loved. But I don't think anyone really knows what love truly is. My best description is this. Love is a feeling of completeness with someone. Love is a need that seems to be fulfilled with someone. Love is a smile that gets better with every passing day. I still remember the first few lines of a poem that I wrote about love when I was 15 years old - it goes like this : "Love is but a pressure, not kind, but noble and true, although it causes wanting, it shows that I need you." And I would still have to agree after all these years, that Love is a desire or wanting for someone that fills our many needs. We often settle for having just some of our needs met. But when we finally "hold out" for the one who meets all of our needs - we seem to be content. ` |
| ~Harem~ | ` I feel compelled to add this. I tried to address romantic love. The greeks were smart enough to have different words for different types of love. "porneia" and "agape" are just two of them. When "romantic love" is felt, it is embellished by "Porneia" (sexual love) and "agape" (love based upon principal. And so, when those in romantic love relationships add the above to the recipe - the love deepens and becomes more meaninful. And isn't that what the concept of the "Loveblender" is all about. Blending all the wonderful ingredients that go into the many aspects of Love. Of special note is "Agape". "Agape" love entices you to put the needs of your partner before your own. "Agape" love persuades you to be the first to say your sorry. "Agape" love draws you into being thoughtful of your partners feelings. It's the icing on the cake. It's the magic sparkle that keeps your partner mesmerized for life. ~Harem~ ` |
| Chances | It is the classic 'you don't know what you've got until it's gone'. I guess occasionally people may be blind to the love that was there and only realised after the fact. But if you mean you can never appreciate love fully until you lose it - I think you can only know what love is in the moment. The aftermath is just a coloured memory, either sweetness and light or vain regret. |
| Jon | Yeah, probably. You can't be bored if you've never had fun. |
| B.K. | No I don't think you can ever lose what is truly love. But knowing what real love is, now that is the question. |
| spaded | I don't think love must be lost, but I do believe that you can be in love many times before you find a special someone and realize that all the past loves, were not really loves at all. Suddenly you know exactly what love is. |
| Cryingshame58 | No two people or their experiences are alike so I don't think someone must lose love to experience it...With every kind of love, I never stop loving someone once I've encountered it including romantic love...The relationship may fail, but the love is still there deep within my mind, heart, soul...I do know others that can stop loving someone, but I haven't felt myself capable of that... |