| Kirk | I think 3's my max. But it was mostly silly highschool stuff. 'Course, a lot of the relationships I had in college were kind of in the shadow of "Rosetta", but I don't think that makes them somehow illigitmate, they were still good. |
| Chances are | Up to last year, I was faithful, one man in my life. Last year I was BAD (if that’s what you want to call it). I felt ignored, frustrated and wanted someone to listen and pay attention to me. I tried turning a friendship into something it wasn’t. Failed abysmally. In the end, I was honest with hubby because … I guess it was a desperate call for him to wakeup to me. I didn’t want to have sex, just kiss and fool around (naïve). I was raped. He’s not a friend anymore and he’s out of our lives. I also tried to start a new life with someone else after this and other frustrations compounded, looking for an instant solution without solving the problem. The answer was no and I got hurt. I am still learning the lessons. |
| Bridget O | Yes, sadly, I have. it's been an ongoing battle of mine that my best friend professes he "loves" me but doesn't act like he does and then theres another one who's recently entered my life and i feel he truly does love me. The tough part is choosing between the one's friendship and the other's love. |
| Misti | Yes. I think most people probably have. I loved one guy for a long time. He loved someone else but we had phone sex on a regular basis. It was more than just phone sex, of course. We would talk about all kinds of stuff for about three or four hours and then throw in about ten minutes of phone sex for intimacy. It was a strange time in my life. It lasted for almost a decade. Not the phone sex, but the unrequited love. While loving this one guy I dated and had flings with other guys and even married (not technically) a guy in Las Vegas. He tried to rescue me from the con artist I didn't really marry but I was loyal to the con artist because I felt sorry for him. Now my credit is shit. And when I was dating a guy I really, really liked I cheated on him with the guy I loved for most of a decade because the guy I really, really liked only liked me for sex. There are more sad tales to tell but that's all I'm willing to share. |
| Elysian | No. Never. It's a horrible thing to do. Devotion is the key word when It comes to loving someone. What's the point in life without commitment and honesty? The love which you have for him/her should be genuine and not fake. |
| lovekitty | carol--yes I do have alot of stuff to complain about, my age is none of your buisness, my things are not about guy, cuz im a lezbian and i dont like guys at all. and most my things are bout me not being excepted. |
| Inflatable Sushi | GOSH let's all share more embarrassing stories about our inability to love or commit or respect other's love for ourselves...yes, what a fascinating subject for a romance poetry website. TELL IT TO YOUR SHRINK (and stop being so proud about how bad you can be). How embarrassing. |
| Chances are | Oh Sushi. What did you bother looking at the ~SURVEY~ for? I'm proud of this much - I can be honest! BTW. Are you a frustrated shrink? You seem to be diagnosing everyone around here with some form of mental disorder! |
| spaded | Isn't seeing more than one person and exploring all the options the point of dating? I have never loved more than one person at a time in a romantic sense, I think that is impossible. However if the love is not returned I feel no qualms about going back to exploring the options... :D |
| Purple Princess | I never thought it was possible to love more than one person at once until recently. Now its tearing me apart. I'm scared of acting upon the feelings I have for this guy because of the effect it might have on another. |
| RennieLorca | I love a number of people very much ... care for their feelings and how they are doing. I help them, as they do me. Care for their families and other loved ones. Have no feelings of jealousy or need to influence or control. Am able to actually tell them I love them and hear the same from them. Some have asked me to say the words. Have no need to feel that love returned, but know that it is in how I am treated. It is the ultimate form of friendship. I am intensely devoted and crave passionate love and steady companionship with only one who returns that. All of this has been a unique and wonderful growth experience that makes me far happier in who I am and how I feel. I am intensely happy. I would not have survived without this combination in my life. I was still held and cared for when absolutely wretched in health and misery. Encouraged all around. I tried loving and companionship as dictated by some others at first. Their desires and required images over-rode my needs. They see me happy and ask how they can find happiness now that the veneer of their relationships is wearing thin. I see others I care very much for on a regular basis. We use the time to truly care for each other, catch up on how each is doing and feeling, and feel good that each is in working relationships that fit what each of us needs. They can enjoy time with me, even the compliments of a bit of flirting that tells them they still look great. They know these are compliments and not open doors to more of me. I respect them and their intelligence in this as it shows real maturity. They are all positive I am best with who I share my innermost self ... that is also real love from others. Unrequited love doesn't have to mean unfantasized about. There can be a beginning, middle and end to fantasy where real love continues in something real. Telling a partner someone else looks good and why, and then showing that partner you still prefer them can be stimulating. Wondering what a partner craves can eventually lead to insecurity without that communication. Being able to share and explore feelings like that can bring real lovers closer as they learn preferences, fantasy and what their partner can crave. There is no insecurity about what I will be doing in any time spent with someone else in knowing how I really feel. So yes to the question as I am free to "date" but devoted totally to one and he knows it without reservation ..... Rennie |
| Liz | I fell in love with a man when I was already involved with someone else. But I realized if I truly loved my intended, then I wouldn't have developed such strong feelings for the second man. I cared about J. and I didn't want to hurt him, but love lead me elsewhere. |
| drew1977 | ive seen more than one person at a time, but as soon as it develops into something more ive always been faithful |
| Jon | Yes, I've dated more than one person at a time. Who doesn't? And no, I've never loved more than one person at a time. My time and attention can be divided, but not my heart. |
| RainbowChaser | What do you think it means when the person you've broke up with dates others and doesn't tell you, but says that they still want you in their life? Does still wanting someone in your life mean that you still love them...i think it's more of a slam against her than me, that he would spend all this time with me while with her..and even try to go with me on christmas...what's the consensus..i could use some honest answers |
| B.K. | To give love the dimension that it deserves there should only be one focus, one love. |