| B.K. | I like planned for an anniversary, birthdays, special occasions etc. Spontaneous (my fave) is the incredible moment when the stars and the magic is THERE waving its flag in front of you. Then you don't want to come up for air for about a week. bk |
| Misti | My spontaneity has gotten me in a heap of trouble."Hey, let's road trip to Vegas and get married!" And I have this Mexico thing...sometimes when I'm drinking with a guy in a bar I get so drunk that I beg him to take me to Mexico. That's happened more than a few times. They never take me up on it, thankfully. Careful planning bores me but maybe I should start considering it. |
| Triciattx | Women have come to expect romantic gestures for birthdays, anniversaries, Mother's Day, Valentines Day, and the like because the media hypes up the emotional levels weeks beforehand, so they'd be a cad or moron not to deliver. Unfortunately, we tend to take a lot for granted that the husband or boyfriend will do the expected, and take us to dinner or buy us some token of their affection. It tends to diminish the element of romance when it's coerced or expected. Surprising us when we're expecting nothing is real validation that, even when there is no coercion or television prompts reminding them, they still want to do something to show us they love us, or are thinking of us. This is the stuff romance novels are written about! Just my opinion, and for the record, I'm as blown away with a simple bag of Hershey's kisses as most women are with a Gucci bag! |
| Violet | I love planning... going out for dinner on a special night and dressing up is fun. I love holidays so I can think up fun presents for my husband and I love getting fun presents. :-) I also like random acts of love. I believe a good relationship has a balance of both. |
| cryingshame58 | I love the element of surprise...sometimes that takes planning and sometimes it can be spontaneous...Partners should find out "what is romantic" to their sweetheart...From meeting their partner at the front door wearing only saran wrap to giving/sharing tickets to their favorite event or show...many varieties of being romantic... |
| Kirk | Honestly, I hate surprises, because I tend to be a bit fussy about some things, and if it's not something I'm thrilled by, like it's just ok not great, I hate having to feign absolute delight. (By a similar token I'm a real P.i.t.A. to buy gifts for...I've been blessed with enough disposable income that the amount of stuff I really want but haven't bought but is still in a gift price range is pretty small...) |
| spaded | I think both are ok. I am not a romantic in the regularly used sense of the word so if a guy plans a nice night out that is great. I am more likely to go the spontaneous route myself and it would be a silly gift that would just be between us. For example me and my guy went to the park the other day and spent twenty or thirty minutes on the swings. I introduced him to spidering and boy the looks people gave us driving by were great. I think i will go buy a well made doll house miniature swing set. Corny as hell, but fun and my idea of "romantic". Of course i thought swinging was romantic you don't meet many men in there mid twenties willing to just let loose and be a kid again, and i like that in a man. Gives me goose bumps... ;-) |
| ladyinwaiting | i love a well planned surprise and let the spontaneity move the remainder of the evening, but then again i am a hopeless romantic... |