From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">TJ Holland</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Ya, and also remember that females are generally emotional beings. To one degree or another. And, being a female myself, I can say that. LOL! Thing is, women's emotions don't always make much sense (I tend to think more like a guy and analyze/problem solve too much. I also don't let my heart get in the way of my head and so I make EXTREMELY PRACTICAL decisions most of the time - to the frustration of my men). Sooooo......maybe, Elaina, you might try stepping back from your heart feelings, and taking a look at what is actually good for you. We women don't seem to do that very much. We just make decisions based on the behavior of those around us (and then tell ourselves that it is what we really wanted anyway). Not healthy. <BR>
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And girl, you ARE sweet. Don't settle for less than what you deserve!<BR>
<BR>
-Teej
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=499">Hedvig</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Sweetness - <BR>
<BR>
Thank you for taking the time to both read my work, and also to comment on it.<BR>
<BR>
Hedvig / H.C.M.<BR>
<BR>
.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=407">hollymccormick</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

<a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2001.11.15.09.10.22926">A Forced Gift</a> <BR>
Hedvig,<BR>
Oh girl!!! Boy do you have problems. I am speaking from experince on this one. I went through the EXACT same thing with my (now) ex-husbands family. Please, please lay it on the table now, before it gets any worse. If you don't put your foot down now (esp. with the daughter thing) you will never have any control over anything with his family. Please, please heed my advice and hash this out with all of them now!!<BR>
Good Luck and God Bless,<BR>
Holly
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=34">Just Some Girl</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Oh, Madi!!<BR>
<BR>
I love "Piano," and the music adds so much!!  Great choice of Chopin!!  Do more of that!!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

This is a poetry page not dear abbey Hedwig, Hoodwink or whatever you call yourself. Geeze give us a break! Make satire out of it write it in your diary or xanga but please don't take up good space with drivel. Here's phone change call one of your girlfriends and heave there. (Oh life is so unfair) Give me a break!<BR>
<BR>
bk (just call it a pms attack ha, this one is just too much)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=499">HEDVIG</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

B.K.<BR>
Was trying a new style.  Thought I was fashioning it after a few of the older front page pic.<BR>
Sorry I offended you.<BR>
I'll try not to do it again.<BR>
I'll keep trying until I get the style of writing that everyone likes.<BR>
Again, please accept my apologies.<BR>
Also I apologize to whoever else out here is offended by this piece, or by anything that I write.<BR>
<BR>
Hedvig Christine Martinsen <BR>

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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=499">Hedvig</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

B.K.<BR>
Also, I might add....<BR>
Writers are very sensitive.<BR>
I have learned this from writing on many sites.<BR>
They get offended easily, more so than non writers.<BR>
Especially the women.  They are the hardest to please.<BR>
Men are not as critical, and yet I have had a few that got upset with my writing.  C'est la vie. (that's life)<BR>
So I am not offended by your comment, but flattered that you took the time to read my stuff and make a comment.<BR>
A comment, no matter how sarcastic, is better than being ignored.<BR>
If I am getting attention.... I am happy...<BR>
Thanks again for the comment.<BR>
<BR>
You will find however, that some things that please some will offend others, etc.  It is almost impossible to please all the readers, all the time.... but I will try....<BR>
<BR>
Hedvig / H.C.M.<BR>
<BR>
P.S.  you may not like my name, but I am proud of it.<BR>
Good Swedish Stock....  ha ha....  Jag heter Hedvig....
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=34">Just Some Girl</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Rhet:<BR>
<BR>
I'm glad!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=17">deevaa</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Hedvig - do you not think that is a little selfish? If you are getting attention you are happy? As long as someone comments on your work, you are happy.<BR>
<BR>
You haven't once commented on anyone else's work.<BR>
<BR>
As long as it is all about you, you don't mind. <BR>
<BR>
Its the same as the long 1/2 poem, 1/2 rant thing you posted.... the inlaws invited you, you said no, but yet it is thier fault? You've been married, what 5 times before, your not including his family in this wedding because you don't want strangers there? WTF? Really. Get over yourself and start looking outside your own little mind.<BR>
<BR>
<BR>
<BR>

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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=34">Just Some Girl</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Did I miss something, or is this the very same Hedvig that stated, I think it was on the 12th, that she didn't want to get chatty or chummy with others?  
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=499">Hedvig</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

WHATEVER.....<BR>
fight amongst yourselves.<BR>
<BR>
I don't have the time or the patience for it.<BR>
<BR>
<BR>
.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=109">Stephen</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Christ, you people _look_ for fights. lol
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=17">deevaa</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Hedvig, you asked for feedback - I'm just giving mine.<BR>
<BR>
It seems to me that you are living in a very glass house, I wouldn't start throwing stones.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=17">deevaa</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Gala - I just read your decadent day, Argyle and I went to the Hepburn Springs Spa while I was there last and we each had a massage and shared a private spa laced with camomile and jasmine, we had wicked on our minds when we booked the private spa, but it was so warm and relaxing it was all we could do not to fall asleep!! It was a nice thing to share though, when you come to visit us we'll find you a guy and send you along. *smirk*<BR>
<BR>
<a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2001.11.15.16.26.31597">Cursed Day</a> *wrinkles her nose* my yesterday was pretty much the same.<BR>
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Kev - you've been pumping out some good stuff recently.<BR>
<BR>
... and Madi, the music was a wonderfully unique touch.<BR>
<BR>
nice nice nice...<BR>
<BR>
take care of your hearts,<BR>
<BR>
dee<BR>

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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Sophia; you and Hedwig can kiss each other in the mirror can't you? HA HA <BR>
<BR>
bk
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">TJ Holland</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

**Whispers to Stephen** ~ I think the girls figure Hedvig is Harem. Ergo their vehement attack. *ducks and covers head* I can see why they might think it, same style, mass amounts of entries, sharing super personal somewhat dysfunctional stuff in very 'casual' writing form. *whispering getting lower and more furtive* I'm taking cover Stephen, wanna hide in MY bobm shelter? *glancing around quickly* LOL! *running for cover*
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">TJ Holland</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

***incoming message to the Blender Board, received from the Bomb Shelter****<BR>
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Oh! I just had a thought...maybe all this excessive arguing and nastiness is arising because of our stress levels, which may directly result from the ever present knowledge that our country (and therefore 'WE') is (are) in a threatening predicament right now. You know? I mean this Bin Laden asshole is in hiding, secretive, attacking at random and from concealed places. So whenever someone figures they are experiencing a personal attack in a similar manner, or perceives someone to be operating 'Bin Laden style', they react in ways they wouldn't have if things in other parts of their lives weren't so threatening?  oooohhhh! a bit o' psycobabble to think about!!<BR>
<BR>
"there will be men with secret combinations hiding in divers places"<BR>
<BR>
-Dr.Teej *has food and water supply in here!*
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=268">Misti</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

I'll bring the candles and the matches. Flashlights aren't as poetic. We can all have a singalong. No Christmas songs, please. Okay...back to work.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=17">deevaa</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

I dunno why you are hiding TJ, I'm not pissed at you.<BR>
<BR>
I'm pissed at the somewhat selfish and hypocritical nature of comments made by both Hedvig and Harem same person or not (and yes I think they are the same).<BR>
<BR>
I'm also pissed at that Daisy/Jim/Victim creature.<BR>
<BR>
I could do like Daisy/Jim/Victim and vent here all day, however I choose not to.<BR>
<BR>
Maybe tomorrow, or then again, maybe not.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=17">deevaa</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

oh and if I'm being accused of 'excessive arguing and nastiness' ...   I can't use Bin Laden related stress as an excuse, my country was vote the safest in the world according to last months Time magizine.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=13">B.K.</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Osama has nothing to do with this person that insults our intelligence with every twist and turn and then comes back again and again with different names (writing the very same way every time)as if we would never know the difference. HA it's almost a stand-up comedy act in itself. Saturday Night Live should see this one.<BR>
<BR>
bk
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">violet</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

hey... what's happening everybdy? Everyone seems to be having a nice day... lots of pleasant,sunny, love-like feelings in the air. :-P hey... TJ.... if i come to your bomb shelter can i sing folk songs? My fiancee plays some mean guitar as well... How Cozy! :-) <BR>
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Rhet~ Part II was very well done... thank you! Reading your poetry is always a treat! I literally said "Ooh! A new post from Rhetoric!" out loud. :-)<BR>
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Misti~ I was trying to decide which of your poems I should comment on, since they were all lovely!! I really liked the letter she wanted to send... it's one of those that really hits home... wait, all of your poems do that! <BR>
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Hedvig~ Kan du tale dansk? Det kan jeg! Jeg boede i danmark en gang.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=254">chris</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Right on BK & Dee... Harem's--er, Hedvigs's--stuff makes for interesting enough reading, but people who want attention and little else bore me.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">TJ Holland</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

**S.O.S.**<BR>
<BR>
Help! STOP. Damaged by fallout. STOP. Casualty of war. STOP. Innocent bystander. STOP. News commentator. STOP. Send medical supplies. STOP. <BR>
<BR>
**rushes up ladder to open door for Misti and Violet and Violet's fiance*** Hurry up! Where's Deevaa and B.K.?? Come on girls, get in! It's safer in here!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=254">chris</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Dee--<BR>
<BR>
"Daisy/Jim/Victim creature" Ha! Yes! However...it does take someone truly intelligent to be that scary--and annoying.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">TJ Holland</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Chris, I agree. Though he seems to be the epitome of contention, he is very intelligent and effective in his wording. I was actually in disgusted awe of his comments. <BR>
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(Dee...just for the record, I wasn't accusing YOU of nastiness. Nor 'hiding' in my wonderfully cozy, candle lit (thanks to Misti), musical (thanks to Violet and beau) Bomb Shelter from YOU, love.)<BR>
<BR>
And I definately wasn't accusing anyone of BEING Bin Laden, it was just a metaphor or a simile or whatever the hell, to suggest an explanation of the increasingly large and frequent eruptions here at the Blender. LOL!<BR>
<BR>
I'm having a very great time injecting humor onto the Board. I realize that some people feel very seriously about this cyber stuff and may be offended by my levity, but I am refusing to get drawn into negativity right now. I'm laughing and living and loving.   :-)   <BR>
<BR>
**hears the whistle and whine of an incoming!! Rushes back to the Shelter**
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=4">TJ Holland</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

*through the megaphon* <BR>
<BR>
erin ~ you know what? you are very able to capture moments of time, and the feelings inside them, with your words. I loved <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2001.11.15.20.34.26539">Do-Over</a> and so I went back and re-read your other stuff. It's incredible. Wow!<BR>
<BR>
-Teej (*thank goodness I have my computer in here! Whew!*)
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

TJ Holland~ I must say, I was very amused by <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2001.11.15.20.06.4141">The Blender and It's People</a>  :-) Well done.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=205">Violet</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Erin~ Thank's to TJ's comment to you, I went back to the archives and read all your stuff! I had read a few, and remember being impressed with them, but I don't know if I ever said anything.  I loved your poetry, every last one was excellent! I really identified with you... I could feel your words. God, that sounds so sappy, but you are truly amazing! I'm sorry for not commenting sooner! wow.
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=8">Ali</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

**Attempting to think happy thoughts...Damn it! I hurt my head!** <BR>
<BR>
TJ~ 'The Blender and it's People' was wonderful...Loved it! =)<BR>
<BR>
Love and pensive looks, Ali
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=268">Misti</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

I cut and paste this, thought it was interesting:<BR>
The 10 Best Make-Out Songs Ever Are... <BR>
...guaranteed by the irreverent music magazine Blender to help you seduce your lover. Kissie, kissie, smooch, smooch. The list below was assembled based on of poll of revered music journalists (along with much heated debate among Blender's staff members). The key to choosing a successful seduction song, Pemberton told The New York Post, is that it has to be soft and slow, have a gentle loping rhythm with a backbeat, and not be depressing. <BR>
<BR>
Aside to Britney and *N SYNC and Jessica and Christina: Please step away. Your songs aren't on this list. <BR>
<BR>
The No. 1 make-out song is...ta-dum: "Avalon" by Roxy Music. "It's a particularly smoochie record," Andy Pemberton, Blender's editor-in-chief, told The New York Post. "It's not an exact science, but if you played Roxy Music, it would get you somewhere." <BR>
<BR>
The top 10 of the 30 songs identified as the best make-out songs ever are: <BR>
<BR>
1. "Avalon" by Roxy Music <BR>
2. "Turn Off the Lights" by Teddy Pendergrass <BR>
3. "Let's Get It On" by Marvin Gaye <BR>
4. "Down Low (Nobody Has to Know)" by R. Kelly <BR>
5. "If I Was Your Girlfriend" by Prince <BR>
6. "November Rain" by Guns N' Roses <BR>
7. "Love Serenade" by Barry White <BR>
8. "Love to Love You Baby" by Donna Summer <BR>
9. "Wild Horses" by the Rolling Stones <BR>
10. "All Blues" by Miles Davis <BR>
<BR>
The rest of the list is in the October/November issue of Blender, available now on newsstands. <BR>
--Cathryn Conroy <BR>
<BR>
...I thought it was the Blender of Love at first, but I was wrong. Anyone ever heard of this "Blender" magazine?<BR>
<BR>
Thank you for the compliment, Violet. Sounds like we'll have the coolest bomb shelter on the block. Thanks for invitin' us in, Teej! Dee, you bring the Godiva chocolates! I love your latest blog, btw. <BR>
<BR>

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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=74">Echolocation</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Teej -- you are BRILLIANT, I loved <a href="/blend/wv.cgi?id=2001.11.15.20.06.4141">The Blender and It's People</a>!  Just hope Kirk The Creator doesn't decide to flood us out for our recent "iniquities"...  Keep on injecting that humor, girl, we need it!!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=74">Echolocation</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Whoops, almost forgot -- lunaa, I really liked your metaphor about the survey being "like an endless sausage within all other comments".  Gave me a great visual!!
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From: <a href="/blend/av.cgi?id=328">Rhetoric</a><BR>
Date: 15 November 2001<P>

Guten Tag, Blender-mixers.<BR>
How goes the day?  I spent all day slinging sushi (only enough time to whip out a quick installment to reconciliation) and all this fun stuff happens without me.  But, since I have had my fair share of rantings and venomous attacks, I am glad for the day off.  I do, however LOVE how everyone got on the wagon to rally around how bad it got there for a second.  Like any politician would say: Thank you for your support.<BR>
Now...<BR>
Many thanks to violet and just some girl for the pep rally they give me each time I send a post up to Mt. Olympus.<BR>
<BR>
Misti - the letter, the duo, and the day all work wonders for my mood.  AND - I love wild horses by the stones.  I have a napster live version with dave matthews and it sends me into joy with each listen.<BR>
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TJ - both yours today are fabu.  I hope "He" (aka Kirk) liked it.  If Moses had 40 days and nights...what did Kirk get?  40 gigs and 40 bytes?  <BR>
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blue sky - distinction - YES!!!  I know that...I get that.<BR>
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Madi - very well done...I like this one much-alot!<BR>
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B.K - it is almost over right?  Soon he will be home?  These poems of longing can't last much longer...I hope you are safe in the arms soon.<BR>
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deevaa, chris, misti, BK, & Teej: I am telling you - Def Comedy Jam could us some funnies like this.  I love the humor (biting at times, but still hilarious) you all are bringing to this week's woes.  THANK YOU...<BR>
<BR>
Jennifer Irene signing off and going to sleep.<BR>
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BTW - this Sunday morn @ around 4am EST the best meteor shower in decades will be visible.  I hope you all can catch it.  It should be a hum dinger.<BR>

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